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runaroundsue
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 Posted: 10/16/03 - 12:50 Post subject: tacky invitations, weddings, etc
Having a conversation with sister re: coworkers upcoming wedding.
the coworker is pissed because she sent out wedding invites to single people and some of the people wrote ____ &guest will attend when she only addressed the invite to the person.
come on let's here them!
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 12:53 Post subject:
She has good reason to be pissed she only invited that person.
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 12:56 Post subject:
more important---does she know the ply of the toilet paper????
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 12:57 Post subject:
So who do you think is tacky, the single person, or the bride for not wanting them to bring a guest? I know I'd be pretty ticked off if I was expected to leave my SO home when the married people got to come as couples--are they that strapped for money?
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runaroundsue
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 12:57 Post subject:
while it was wrong for the person to write guest....if I ever got an wedding invitation addressed to just me....I would write 0 attending.
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 12:58 Post subject:
| BamBam wrote: | | more important---does she know the ply of the toilet paper???? |
To some that is the most important part.
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genie
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 12:58 Post subject:
hehehe we posted at the same time. Me too! 
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 12:59 Post subject:
I think she should be upset as well. Obviously, money is being spent/head for each plate at the table. Not only that, but some venues and churches only have "X" amount of seats available. It's really not up to the guest to decide who goes.
I have been invited to many a wedding where no kids were welcome. That's fine. I respect the wishes of the bride and groom.
That would have pissed me off too if that had happened to us.
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 13:00 Post subject:
| runaroundsue wrote: | | while it was wrong for the person to write guest....if I ever got an wedding invitation addressed to just me....I would write 0 attending. |
Either that, or call the bride and ask if I could bring a guest. I think it was tacky on the bride's part also to not allow for a guest on a single's invite.
I don't like doing things alone, that's for sure!
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 13:00 Post subject:
I'd be pissed too. Weddings are way too expensive today and in order to invite those you really want to invite and keep the cost down is to only invite one if you know that person isn't in a relationship or just starting a relationship.
And is the toilet paper over or under?
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runaroundsue
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 13:01 Post subject:
| genie wrote: | | So who do you think is tacky, the single person, or the bride for not wanting them to bring a guest? I know I'd be pretty ticked off if I was expected to leave my SO home when the married people got to come as couples--are they that strapped for money? |
Genie--a coworker asked if she was registered. The reply was no, we don't need anything (you know what that means). Although the reception starts at 5 oclock....there is no sitdown meal. My sister tells me that the bride's stepdad is bringing cheese curds!!!!! I kid you not  . Yes, this is in WI.
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 13:03 Post subject:
It's a society norm for someone to bring a date to a wedding UNLESS it's been clearly stated on the invite that they can't.
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 13:03 Post subject:
| runaroundsue wrote: | | the bride's stepdad is bringing cheese curds!!!!! I kid you not . Yes, this is in WI. |
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 13:06 Post subject:
The bulk of you must've been fortunate to have someone pay for your wedding. I was not. To keep costs down (The Paramedic was in graduate school, so we had only my pitiful salary to work on) we invited guests for single people only if they'd been together for a while and were in a committed relationship. No one complained (at least to us) as they understood the situation. I also said no children, and the only person who complained was my cousin but I told her to stuff it 'cause I didn't like her anyway.
If you are the only invitee, you have a choice: either go as one, or don't go. It's in poor taste to ask the bride/groom to accommodate your "need" for a date, because they most assuredly considered that before they sent the invite out.
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runaroundsue
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Posted: 10/16/03 - 13:06 Post subject:
| nolefan85 wrote: | I think she should be upset as well. Obviously, money is being spent/head for each plate at the table. Not only that, but some venues and churches only have "X" amount of seats available. It's really not up to the guest to decide who goes.
I have been invited to many a wedding where no kids were welcome. That's fine. I respect the wishes of the bride and groom.
That would have pissed me off too if that had happened to us. |
I think that if you can't account for seats for a person to invite the guest, then maybe that person isn't close enough to be invited to a small gathering. One less gift though...maybe.
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