quarterlife crisis

crazy cat lady

I realize most of you are married and/or out of your twenties but this email forward was pretty real for me, I thought I'd share for the other handful of us that could probably relate

Being Twenty-Something, they call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One-night-stands and
random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an
idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself...and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

Oompa Loofah

As far as I can tell, these sentiments last well into your 30's.

Thanks for posting. It's good to know others feel the same.

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Oompa Loofah

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Okay, I'll admit it: I was a sailor when the ships were made of wood and the men were made of steel. Smile

I'm not certain but if I can be healthy, I'd like to live to be 100. That being the case, I'll be at mid-life in a about twelve weeks, so...what's this crisis thingy I'm supposed to encounter?

Help?

Master of Prissface

Now I understand why 25 was almost harder than 30. I hope 40 gets easier cuz I'm rapidly approaching that fateful day Shocked

Thanks for sharing, aire is right, I think this does go long into your 30's.

AZhat

Is there anything written like this that explains people in a Thirty Something crisis?

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