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pokychick
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 Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:14 Post subject: parenting/disciplining
On a related note from the household chores thread do you feel the parenting/disciplining duties are shared equally between you and your spouse?
It is this area where Mr Poky and I disagree the most.
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runswithscissors
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:19 Post subject:
So far it's pretty even. Michael's still a bit too young. I think I tend to hold off a little longer before scolding him than she does, though.
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rolling rock
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:21 Post subject:
gee, let me see---
HELL NO.
Again, it's a matter of timing here. i'm with them the most so i wield the stick.
i really hate when  may be thrown in from left field at times 
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keltic63
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:29 Post subject:
i am much stricter than the mrs. she occasionally has to remind me to back down.
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Cappy
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:31 Post subject:
I agree with RR, the parent that is home can handle. We do communicate to each other what happened so we are in the loop on things.
If we are home together then whomever answers up to the DAD or MOM deals with it.
If there is a question to the punishment we discuss privately away from the kids
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robp
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:43 Post subject:
My oldest son - I wielded the stick. A number of arguments ensued over his discipline - his mom felt that I wasn't tough enough on him at times and I felt she used to try and put assinine restraints on a very active boy. Many times she came across as you're going to listen to what I say just because I said so. I offered a reason and an explanation for punishment every time he got out of line. It worked, he's graduating high school in two weeks and has a fine head on his shoulders.
My youngest son - totally different kid, laid back, rarely needed any type of punishment for anything other than a lackadaisial attitude towards school. That is still a battle being fought with him at times but he's made some major gains.
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jrjo
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:44 Post subject:
Mrs jrjo tows a much tighter line. I'm more marshmallowie. When we're together, whoever makes a decision, the other supports its so the kids see an equal front. No major issues yet...but our oldest is only six.
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shelflifers
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:45 Post subject:
Don't have kids but I will tell you that I'm in charge of punching our cat.
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Sahara
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:51 Post subject:
He and I have many unresolved issues with parenting style and discipline. I'm not sure style is the right word. It's a sensitive subject for me.
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copteacher
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 12:54 Post subject:
I am a little more lenient only because I have more patience. But I back her up even when I disagree and vice versa.
So we are pretty close.
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rolling rock
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 13:04 Post subject:
| shelflifers wrote: | | Don't have kids but I will tell you that I'm in charge of punching our cat. |
now that you mention it, he never says a word to those two either
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