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rolling rock
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 Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:36 Post subject: need your partying opinions
if you were having a small party at your home (25 people) and one of the invited people is a recovering alcoholic, age 23, would you have beer in the cooler with the water/pop/tea you are planning on serving, assuming the other guests will most likely be expecting a cold beer....it's an afternoon thing.
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keltic63
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:46 Post subject:
is it possible to contact the recovering alcoholic and ask politely?
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robp
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:48 Post subject:
Yes I would have it. It's up to the recovering person to resist all temptation - not up to their friends and relatives to make sure they resist.
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karlene
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:49 Post subject:
That's an interesting question.
it can be looked at a couple ways:
1. He's recovering and has temptations everywhere. So why not?
2. You could not have beer in the cooler because you feel that its too much of a temptation for him being right in his face...
I personaly, having alcoholics in my family, and sometimes feel bitter about it would have the beer in the cooler, they need those temptations to help them figure out that 'Hey, i don't Need it'.
just my 2 cents
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:50 Post subject:
I agree with Rob here. 
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akern
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:51 Post subject:
I was going to suggest seperate coolers but he's going to see everyone else drinking a beer so why bother. Can you get him N\A beer? Or is that a no no too?
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purple hayes
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:53 Post subject:
4% of your guests are going to have a problem with alcohol and you're willing to accommodate them? You're nicer than I am.
If 4% of your guests had an eating disorder would you consider not serving food?
If 4% of your guests had a pet allergy, would you send Spot to the pet boarders and have the carpet steam cleaned?
Muslim? No pork? onandonandon
/now if you'll pardon me, I'm lately for sensitivity training.
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akern
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:56 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | 4% of your guests are going to have a problem with alcohol and you're willing to accommodate them? You're nicer than I am.
If 4% of your guests had an eating disorder would you consider not serving food?
If 4% of your guests had a pet allergy, would you send Spot to the pet boarders and have the carpet steam cleaned?
Muslim? No pork? onandonandon |
No wonder you can't get anyone to show up at your parties. 
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purple hayes
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:57 Post subject:
| akern wrote: | | purple hayes wrote: | 4% of your guests are going to have a problem with alcohol and you're willing to accommodate them? You're nicer than I am.
If 4% of your guests had an eating disorder would you consider not serving food?
If 4% of your guests had a pet allergy, would you send Spot to the pet boarders and have the carpet steam cleaned?
Muslim? No pork? onandonandon |
No wonder you can't get anyone to show up at your parties. |
I don't serve anything. I don't want to offend anyone. 
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:59 Post subject:
Why did the Seinfeld episode come to mind?
I'd take Keltic's approach, and ask the person in recovery.
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robp
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 09:59 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | | akern wrote: | | purple hayes wrote: | 4% of your guests are going to have a problem with alcohol and you're willing to accommodate them? You're nicer than I am.
If 4% of your guests had an eating disorder would you consider not serving food?
If 4% of your guests had a pet allergy, would you send Spot to the pet boarders and have the carpet steam cleaned?
Muslim? No pork? onandonandon |
No wonder you can't get anyone to show up at your parties. |
I don't serve anything. I don't want to offend anyone. |
I invite peoples pets and serve them alcohol at my parties - it keeps things lively. Nothing like a pack of drunken dogs trying to catch a stoned cat for entertainment.
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rolling rock
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 10:01 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | 4% of your guests are going to have a problem with alcohol and you're willing to accommodate them? You're nicer than I am.
If 4% of your guests had an eating disorder would you consider not serving food?
If 4% of your guests had a pet allergy, would you send Spot to the pet boarders and have the carpet steam cleaned?
Muslim? No pork? onandonandon |
i agree with this line of thinking, however, it is family and every other "gathering" we've been too since his AA days have been without any alcohol at all, in any way shape of form..
also, his mother will be there and it's just kinda out of respect i guess....i suppose i could call her and see how she feels...that just feels awwwwkwarrrrd. besides, what's she gonna say? NO BEER FOR YOUR PARTY!!
mr.'s gonna have a problem with my suggestion, that's a fact jack. 
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keltic63
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 10:01 Post subject:
I'm still going to slice this down the middle: is he recently out of treatment? then maybe I'd consider going non-alcoholic for the party. are we talking 6 months sober? I'd serve the alcohol, knowing that if he really wanted it he could get it on his own anyway, and having it at your party is no more of a temptation than stopping at the bar down the street.
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rolling rock
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 10:03 Post subject:
| keltic63 wrote: | | I'm still going to slice this down the middle: is he recently out of treatment? then maybe I'd consider going non-alcoholic for the party. are we talking 6 months sober? I'd serve the alcohol, knowing that if he really wanted it he could get it on his own anyway, and having it at your party is no more of a temptation than stopping at the bar down the street. |
true dat.
it's been a couple years i think, since he stopped completely.
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Posted: 05/22/06 - 10:08 Post subject:
Since he's been out a couple of years, it's possible that he's been in similar situations since then. And if he hasn't, at least he'll be surrounded by family to help support him rather then with a group of friends who may not be aware of his past, or are too busy partying to care.
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