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elkid
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 Posted: 12/11/03 - 12:40 Post subject: my heart is breaking
A friend of mine is going through a major crisis at home right now, and I can do nothing for her. Communication is limited due to the situation, but she knows I'm here for her 24/7. I just wish I could do something to help her. It brings tears to my eyes  that I can't.
How do you deal with stuff like this? Where you want to help another person so badly but cannot?
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airehead
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Posted: 12/11/03 - 12:47 Post subject:
Send them neat little things in the mail. Space it out over a few days so it doesn't all arrive at once.
It lets them know you are thinking about them--even though you can't communicate any other way.
Nothing hurts like having to watch those you really care about suffer.
I'm sorry El.
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cherylpf
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Posted: 12/11/03 - 13:02 Post subject: Re: my heart is breaking
| elkid wrote: | | How do you deal with stuff like this? |
Worry excessively, which I don't recommend. (I'm a pro worrier) Sorry Kid.
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rolling rock
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Posted: 12/11/03 - 13:07 Post subject:
sorry Elkid. helpless is an icky way to feel.
howevah, maybe her just knowing you're out there for her is doing more than you can imagine.
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Noley
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Posted: 12/11/03 - 14:28 Post subject:
Just letting them know that you care is the best kind of support you can give. A little support goes a long way sometimes.
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purple hayes
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Posted: 12/11/03 - 14:33 Post subject:
Tell her to dump that wife-beating bastage and find a women's shelter MUY PRONTO before he kills her. Then support her. It's tough breaking away from a dysfunctional situation when that dysfunction is all you know.
/just guessing
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kattzoo
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Posted: 12/11/03 - 14:34 Post subject:
Sorry Elkid. I'm sure your friend knows your thoughts are with her, and that will mean a lot. Otherwise, your hands are tied, so don't beat yourself up too much over that. I'm sure that would upset your friend more.
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lickitysplit
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Posted: 12/11/03 - 15:16 Post subject:
Even though you can't be with her to help her she knows your there for her and that means so much. Hope things get better for your friend soon. 
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robp
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Posted: 12/11/03 - 15:20 Post subject:
Believe me, I know the feeling.
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