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coachmarkos
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 Posted: 02/07/06 - 12:42 Post subject: havin' relations
A local coach( one of our rivals, we played them second game of the season) was fired last Thursday.
Turns out he was having "relations" with one of his players.
I'm glad he was fired, but it makes me wonder a couple of things.
1. How common is this? I know that I could and would never stoop to this sort of behavior, but I have a sinking suspicion that this is more common than people think.
2. Does this affect my position?
Like it or not, I am a man coaching a team of teenage girls, when something like this happens....does it shed a negative light on all of us. I think it does. It's unfair, but it does.
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 12:47 Post subject:
I think a lot more people think stuff like that is going on a lot more than it actually is.
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runswithscissors
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 12:53 Post subject:
My wife's high school coach was sleeping with one of his players when she was on the team. That was over 10 years ago and he's still the head coach today. You wonder how he was never found out and how many times he's done it since. And he's married with kids, not that that matters, I guess. 
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robp
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 12:54 Post subject:
The girls basketball coach at my high school ended up marrying one of his former players after she graduated. There was at least a 15 yr age difference. I'm not implying though that they were doing anything during her hs career. they are still married and have a pack of kids too.
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jrjo
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 13:04 Post subject:
Should girls' teams be only coached by female coaches? And vice-versa?
That'd solve it most of the time I'd think.
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TreKay
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 13:06 Post subject:
| robp wrote: | | The girls basketball coach at my high school ended up marrying one of his former players after she graduated. There was at least a 15 yr age difference. I'm not implying though that they were doing anything during her hs career. they are still married and have a pack of kids too. |
happened when I was in high school too!! Not a coach, a teacher, ended up marrying right after high school, don't know what has happened since.......
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coachmarkos
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 13:07 Post subject:
you see, it is more common than you think.
This is the third coach that I know of, that I have coached against, in the 10 years I have been coaching basketball, that has been fired for this.
Now, factor in how many people are doing this and not getting caught. Also, factor in that I teach and coach in Rural South Dakota...not too many schools in this state.
That's  scary.
There's a reason I want to remain the head girls coach until my daughter graduates. I least I know she'll be safe.
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robp
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 13:10 Post subject:
| TreKay wrote: | | robp wrote: | | The girls basketball coach at my high school ended up marrying one of his former players after she graduated. There was at least a 15 yr age difference. I'm not implying though that they were doing anything during her hs career. they are still married and have a pack of kids too. |
happened when I was in high school too!! Not a coach, a teacher, ended up marrying right after high school, don't know what has happened since....... |
He was a social studies teacher also and my track coach. I really doubt anything was going on while she was in school - he seemed like a true stand up guy. But wth do I know.
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rolling rock
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 13:21 Post subject:
coach,
you remind me
i live in a shell
stb parent of jr. high female athlete
just wondering what you'd do if that were your child? isn't he breaking the law 
to answer my own question.....i think my husband would probably spend the rest of his life in prison. just sayin.
and no i don't, at this point, think it reflects negatively on all HS coaches. coaches in our district are so hard to find and keep. i'd bet it would be impossible to get all female coaches for all the girls' teams; i think they try this first but sometimes, it just isn't possible.
i don't blame you for being  coach
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 13:33 Post subject:
It happened while I was in HS as well.
It was a female teacher and a few male students...
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airehead
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 13:41 Post subject:
I had a HS teacher that constantly asked me to run away with him and kissed me in class one day. I was a Sophomore and very innocent. 
If he tried it on me, how many more girls did he try that with?
*He dropped dead of a heart attack at school one day.
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coachmarkos
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 14:16 Post subject:
| rolling rock wrote: | coach,
you remind me
i live in a shell
stb parent of jr. high female athlete
just wondering what you'd do if that were your child? isn't he breaking the law
to answer my own question.....i think my husband would probably spend the rest of his life in prison. just sayin.
and no i don't, at this point, think it reflects negatively on all HS coaches. coaches in our district are so hard to find and keep. i'd bet it would be impossible to get all female coaches for all the girls' teams; i think they try this first but sometimes, it just isn't possible.
i don't blame you for being coach |
If this happened to my daughter, I'm not saying I'd kill the guy, but I'd come after him.
It just makes me feel ... I don't know...nervous? 
All it takes is one girl to come forward and say you did something, even if you didn't... you could be ruined forever.
This guy...I'm really pissed at this guy. It makes us all look bad.
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coachmarkos
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 14:17 Post subject:
| airehead wrote: | I had a HS teacher that constantly asked me to run away with him and kissed me in class one day. I was a Sophomore and very innocent.
If he tried it on me, how many more girls did he try that with?
*He dropped dead of a heart attack at school one day. |
you should have reported him immediately.
Just makes me angry.
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airehead
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 14:19 Post subject:
| coachmarkos wrote: | | airehead wrote: | I had a HS teacher that constantly asked me to run away with him and kissed me in class one day. I was a Sophomore and very innocent.
If he tried it on me, how many more girls did he try that with?
*He dropped dead of a heart attack at school one day. |
you should have reported him immediately.
Just makes me angry. |
Honestly? I know it sounds stupid but I was very young and innocent. My parents still don't know.
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coachmarkos
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Posted: 02/07/06 - 14:21 Post subject:
| airehead wrote: | | coachmarkos wrote: | | airehead wrote: | I had a HS teacher that constantly asked me to run away with him and kissed me in class one day. I was a Sophomore and very innocent.
If he tried it on me, how many more girls did he try that with?
*He dropped dead of a heart attack at school one day. |
you should have reported him immediately.
Just makes me angry. |
Honestly? I know it sounds stupid but I was very young and innocent. My parents still don't know. |
It doesn't sound stupid. It sounds CRIMINAL.
people like this need to be forced out of the system.
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