girls girls girls....suck (present company excluded)
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tburt75
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 Posted: 05/15/03 - 10:17 Post subject: girls girls girls....suck (present company excluded)
I just don't have time for thsi sh!t.
Starbucks girl found some other dude, oh well.
Publix girl is interested but won't take the time to call me, and out of principle i just won't call her back, i tire of one way traffic easily.
*This* is why i don't usually bother with girls unless they come onto me like a freight train, i just don't want to play games, i don't want to any extra effort into it that i don't have to. Seriously, i'm busy enough as it is.
But i'm stupid too. This other girl at Starbucks ( : rolls eyes : ) Deidre, she looks to be in good shape. When i came in this morning she asked if i was giong running (i go to work in shorts and t-shirt, usually a race t-shirt), and i said "no, i just raced this past weekend, so no running for at least a week"
"Oh, racing will do that to you"
"I'll definitely do lots of swimming though, after a 6.5 hour race, i'm not wsure when i'll get back to biking"
"6.5 hours? wow"
"heh"
"I ran cross country in highschool, i awnt to get back into it."
"That'll be good for you...thanks for the coffee, see you tomorrow."
"Bye"
right when i got otu the door i thought, "uh...did she just sorta throw that in there cause she maybe wanted a running partner?"
oh well. i'm just stupid. I suppose when i get my coffee tomorrow i can chat with her again.
Maybe girls don't suck, maybe *I* suck?
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 10:23 Post subject:
Maybe you need this:
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genie
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 10:25 Post subject:
Well, you ARE a boy.....and we all know that boys suck.....
I dunno, this whole dance is a rough thing to figure out. If you come on too strong, some people don't like that. If you don't come on strone enough, they lose interest and think you're not into them. If you wait around for them to make a move, and they're too chicken-poo to do it, then you both lose.
I refuse to try anymore. Not that I was really looking to begin with, I kinda like being single. But my theory is, when you're not looking for one, you'll trip over them because you weren't paying attention. Maybe just look to make friends first and see what happens. I have always found it easier to start out as buddies for several reasons:
1-friendship is always a good strong base for a long-term relationship. Ya gotta like each other beyond just doin' the nasty or it's not going to last.
2-it's way easier to make friends with someone, because you're putting you out there as you are. You're not trying to "sell the product" so to speak, so you're not as shy or overbearing, you know what I mean? It's just like, hi, I'm Jed, this is me.....and you're not worried about what she thinks or am I this or that enough.....much less stressful. '
3-in doing this, you encourage them to also put their true selves out there so there's no surprises later on. If you can tolerate each other's quirks as friends, it's likely to work better when things roll over into something more. OR, conversely, if you can't even stand the thought of hanging out with this chick, then it'll save you the trouble of dating her.
Just my  for what it's worth. 
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 10:29 Post subject:
Women love being chased, and you yourself hit it on the head when you said you don't have time to play the game. Some self-confident girl who's willing to do a little chasing of her own will come along and ka-zaam! Tburt will be picking out china patterns in a matter of months.
Seriously dude, unless you're seeing her as the mother of your unborn children, there are other women out there. I wouldn't play the game either.
So says Shanny whose first words to her lovey of nine years were, "When are you going to dump your girlfriend and go out with me?" 
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 11:00 Post subject:
Games suck. Not you, and not us girls! Or at least not the girls that don't play games.
Seriously, man, worry not. My most excellent boyfriend wandered into my life at a moment when neither of us was looking for any sort of relationship. The timing just has to be right - dating should not be difficult or stressful! It should be FUN! Kinda like running. If you're not having fun, you need to take some time off and figure out why, or you'll just end up disappointed and hurt.
Hang in there!
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rubberlegs
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 11:42 Post subject:
| genie wrote: | Well, you ARE a boy.....and we all know that boys suck.....
I dunno, this whole dance is a rough thing to figure out. If you come on too strong, some people don't like that. If you don't come on strone enough, they lose interest and think you're not into them. If you wait around for them to make a move, and they're too chicken-poo to do it, then you both lose.
I refuse to try anymore. Not that I was really looking to begin with, I kinda like being single. But my theory is, when you're not looking for one, you'll trip over them because you weren't paying attention. Maybe just look to make friends first and see what happens. I have always found it easier to start out as buddies for several reasons:
1-friendship is always a good strong base for a long-term relationship. Ya gotta like each other beyond just doin' the nasty or it's not going to last.
2-it's way easier to make friends with someone, because you're putting you out there as you are. You're not trying to "sell the product" so to speak, so you're not as shy or overbearing, you know what I mean? It's just like, hi, I'm Jed, this is me.....and you're not worried about what she thinks or am I this or that enough.....much less stressful. '
3-in doing this, you encourage them to also put their true selves out there so there's no surprises later on. If you can tolerate each other's quirks as friends, it's likely to work better when things roll over into something more. OR, conversely, if you can't even stand the thought of hanging out with this chick, then it'll save you the trouble of dating her.
Just my for what it's worth. |
Well my two cents are worth exactly that, but it's been my experience that once a woman has decided that you're friend material, the romance option is off the table. I've seen it happen to friends, it's happened to me.
I do think that they have a point that if the whole romance/sex thing is formost in your mind things get all mussed up and confused. People don't look objectively at each other when in that dizzy, heady romance phase and end up making bad choices.
My solution? Hell why ask me? I'm just here to talk aimlessly and up my post count. Trust me, I'm the last person in the world to give romance advice, LOL.
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 14:36 Post subject:
| rubberlegs wrote: | | genie wrote: | Well, you ARE a boy.....and we all know that boys suck.....
I dunno, this whole dance is a rough thing to figure out. If you come on too strong, some people don't like that. If you don't come on strone enough, they lose interest and think you're not into them. If you wait around for them to make a move, and they're too chicken-poo to do it, then you both lose.
I refuse to try anymore. Not that I was really looking to begin with, I kinda like being single. But my theory is, when you're not looking for one, you'll trip over them because you weren't paying attention. Maybe just look to make friends first and see what happens. I have always found it easier to start out as buddies for several reasons:
1-friendship is always a good strong base for a long-term relationship. Ya gotta like each other beyond just doin' the nasty or it's not going to last.
2-it's way easier to make friends with someone, because you're putting you out there as you are. You're not trying to "sell the product" so to speak, so you're not as shy or overbearing, you know what I mean? It's just like, hi, I'm Jed, this is me.....and you're not worried about what she thinks or am I this or that enough.....much less stressful. '
3-in doing this, you encourage them to also put their true selves out there so there's no surprises later on. If you can tolerate each other's quirks as friends, it's likely to work better when things roll over into something more. OR, conversely, if you can't even stand the thought of hanging out with this chick, then it'll save you the trouble of dating her.
Just my for what it's worth. |
Well my two cents are worth exactly that, but it's been my experience that once a woman has decided that you're friend material, the romance option is off the table. I've seen it happen to friends, it's happened to me.
I do think that they have a point that if the whole romance/sex thing is formost in your mind things get all mussed up and confused. People don't look objectively at each other when in that dizzy, heady romance phase and end up making bad choices.
My solution? Hell why ask me? I'm just here to talk aimlessly and up my post count. Trust me, I'm the last person in the world to give romance advice, LOL. |
Oh, I don't mean the "gee, I really like you and all that, you're kinda like the brother I never had" kind of friend, more like I'm really comfortable hanging out with you because we have so much fun and I can talk to you about everything...and hey, I just noticed you're kinda  kind of thing. Where it just sort of evolves into something else.
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 14:40 Post subject:
Maybe hit her with subtle innuendo like.....
"Hey baby I'll be your coffee--you be my cream" UGGGH
Really, it does sound like a hint on her part--but don't go back and come on too strong. Like shooting her in the head or anything.
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 14:51 Post subject:
Well, for whatever it's worth, a lot of girls do like guys to take the initiative. I think it's got something to do with the whole socialization process of girls being raised to be nice and always say yes, not call, not be aggressive. I'd ask her to go out for a run or a bike ride or something.
I'll bet she says yes. 
If not, nothing ventured nothing gained or one of those other tired cliches. But you never know until you ask. It's not like you're stalking her or something, for god's sake.
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tburt75
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 15:02 Post subject:
| kristin31 wrote: | Well, for whatever it's worth, a lot of girls do like guys to take the initiative. I think it's got something to do with the whole socialization process of girls being raised to be nice and always say yes, not call, not be aggressive. I'd ask her to go out for a run or a bike ride or something.
I'll bet she says yes.
If not, nothing ventured nothing gained or one of those other tired cliches. But you never know until you ask. It's not like you're stalking her or something, for god's sake. |
I dunno, i DO show up to her work every morning....
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 15:04 Post subject:
| tburt75 wrote: | | kristin31 wrote: | Well, for whatever it's worth, a lot of girls do like guys to take the initiative. I think it's got something to do with the whole socialization process of girls being raised to be nice and always say yes, not call, not be aggressive. I'd ask her to go out for a run or a bike ride or something.
I'll bet she says yes.
If not, nothing ventured nothing gained or one of those other tired cliches. But you never know until you ask. It's not like you're stalking her or something, for god's sake. |
I dunno, i DO show up to her work every morning.... |
Wait, so you're NOT just buying coffee...
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 15:18 Post subject:
Can a dude cut to the quick?? Why wouldn't you narrow the dating field to triathletes? For someone to be compatible with your training, job, and be understanding of your lifestyle, I've got to think that's the place to look.
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genie
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 17:10 Post subject:
Good point, or at least someone who does one of the three things. You definitely want someone who "gets it" about triathletes and their wacky training lives, I know you've said that before.....
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 17:29 Post subject:
| kristin31 wrote: | Well, for whatever it's worth, a lot of girls do like guys to take the initiative. I think it's got something to do with the whole socialization process of girls being raised to be nice and always say yes, not call, not be aggressive. I'd ask her to go out for a run or a bike ride or something.
I'll bet she says yes.
If not, nothing ventured nothing gained or one of those other tired cliches. But you never know until you ask. It's not like you're stalking her or something, for god's sake. |
I'm with Kristin here...a lot of girls aren't going to be super aggressive even though they may be interested.
The tri-athlete idea may be the best one yet though....
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tburt75
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Posted: 05/15/03 - 17:30 Post subject:
I dunno, triathlete chicks are cool and all, but um...i dunno. I have a headache.
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