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elkid
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 Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:36 Post subject: bragging
Why do you think people brag about their accomplishments, status, homelife, stuff, whatever? Is this a positive or a negative character trait?
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:38 Post subject:
It's definitely a big negative for me. Especially those who constantly exaggerate accomplishments to impress others.
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:39 Post subject:
I think that it totally depends. Sometimes I think people do it because the need to make themselves feel important. They put it out there because they want confirmation from others that they are indeed important and/or special.
Other times I think that people are truely proud of their accomplishments or whatever and just want to share and sometimes that is construed as bragging when it is actually just someone being excited and wanting to share their news!
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:40 Post subject:
I'd have to know how you define bragging. I like to share events/things that are important to me, but I don't necessarily call it bragging.
I suppose the sharing is all about intent, yes?
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:42 Post subject:
| phillycat wrote: | I think that it totally depends. Sometimes I think people do it because the need to make themselves feel important. They put it out there because they want confirmation from others that they are indeed important and/or special.
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Some people may not normally get affirmation at all so that the bragging can be a way to seek affirmation for an accomplishment.
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phillycat
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:42 Post subject:
What do you think El?
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elkid
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:42 Post subject:
| brie k wrote: | | I'd have to know how you define bragging. |
This was inspired by phillycat's vet person. Let's go with Webster's "engage in self-glorification" definition. I agree there's a huge difference in showing pride at a personal accomplishment and those of your family members versus using something to gain status and attention.
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:46 Post subject:
| Pug wrote: | | Some people may not normally get affirmation at all so that the bragging can be a way to seek affirmation for an accomplishment. |
On the other hand -- Usually, the people requiring such constant affirmation are lacking in other departments.
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:46 Post subject:
| elkid wrote: |
This was inspired by phillycat's vet person. Let's go with Webster's "engage in self-glorification" definition. I agree there's a huge difference in showing pride at a personal accomplishment and those of your family members versus using something to gain status and attention. |
In regards to my Vet....the fact that he brags and uses his vet standing to advance in other areas is just the tip of the iceberg. He does it with a lot of other aspects of his life as well. It is disgusting...really
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:47 Post subject:
| phillycat wrote: | | What do you think El? |
You know what I think, since I personally tend to downplay everything because I'm such a private person. The only time I really discuss things i do is in race reports and private conversation. I abhor bragging. It's one thing to have pride in something and humbly discuss it. Quite another to go on "look at my car! look at how great little Johnny is! look at all my stuff!" Blech. Get over your look-at-me self already. Sounds like your vet guy does that.
| sonnylax wrote: | | Usually, the people requiring such constant affirmation are lacking in other departments. |
I can't believe it, but we agree. Self confidence and validation should come from within. I can't fathom having to get that externally.
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:49 Post subject:
| phillycat wrote: | I think that it totally depends. Sometimes I think people do it because the need to make themselves feel important. They put it out there because they want confirmation from others that they are indeed important and/or special.
Other times I think that people are truely proud of their accomplishments or whatever and just want to share and sometimes that is construed as bragging when it is actually just someone being excited and wanting to share their news! |
I am going to say  to this.
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:52 Post subject:
| elkid wrote: |
This was inspired by phillycat's vet person. Let's go with Webster's "engage in self-glorification" definition. I agree there's a huge difference in showing pride at a personal accomplishment and those of your family members versus using something to gain status and attention. |
Phillcat's answer, then, is very nice.
I have a friend who shares to the point that it seems like bragging to me. I think she does it because she has low self-esteem. But then perhaps when I am sharing, she thinks I'm bragging too, who knows. I think depends on the intent of the speaker and perception of the receiver. I share, you share, we all share. Perhaps depending on our mood, or frame of reference, the sharing will be interpreted favorably (wow, good for her/him) or unfavorably (good grief woman/man, give it a rest).
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:52 Post subject:
I guess I am okay with bragging, as long as it not overdone, what I am not okay with is embellishing.
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:53 Post subject:
I think it also depends on how it's presented. "I feel so lucky because this nice thing happened to my family" is a lot different than "We have this nice thing and you don't."
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Posted: 11/11/04 - 11:59 Post subject:
Would it be off topic to say
LOOK AT ME!!!!!
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