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HYPERASHEL
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 Posted: 12/28/04 - 13:56 Post subject: another "would you" question.....now with correct
Over the summer Miss Steph's brother was contacted by a woman that says they have the same mother. Apprently Miss Steph's mom was had a child out of wedlock and put her up for adoption.
Miss Steph is very protective of her family and friends and did not take this news well. after lots of persuasion and convincing that this woman was not being mean but curious she let up some and has agreed to meet her, with the rest of the family, Wednesday. Miss Steph invited me along and without thinking much I told her I'd go. I figured i'd go to support her since i know it was a hard decision for her. It dawned on me today though that maybe this should be a "family thing".
what would you do?
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cherylpf
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 14:07 Post subject:
Ask her.
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 14:09 Post subject:
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 14:11 Post subject:
I think you shouldn't go, but you should be very NEAR BY. You should be there for her emotional support, but I don't think you should actually be present to witness.
Kinda like just showing up in the hospital waiting room vs. entering the patient's room. Make sense? 
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genie
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 14:20 Post subject:
Are any of the other spouses/SO's going?
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HYPERASHEL
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 14:39 Post subject:
| genie wrote: | | Are any of the other spouses/SO's going? |
two are coming from way out of town,, they are not brining thier spouses, (but this is what made me think this question too.
1 sister is not married, she's local
1 brother is having the meeting at his house. his whole family (6 college age kids and wife) will be there
1 brother from Fl
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airehead
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 14:49 Post subject:
If she asked you, then she knows what she's doing and what she needs.
I think it's a huge compliment that she wants you there. It means that she considers you to be a safe, strong person whom she wants around!
Good luck, though, this might be a tough situation.
You're a good man for offering to go. 
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bpdou
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 14:52 Post subject:
I'd say ask her, without making it sound like you're trying to back out.
She asked you to come with her in the first place. If she wants you there, the I'd not give it a second thought re: Family Thing. Obviously she thinks of you as family.
Personally, I think it's kind of a nice thing that she wants you there with her for support. I'd say your objective, relatively non-involved presence could be a rather good thing.
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 16:44 Post subject:
| airehead wrote: | If she asked you, then she knows what she's doing and what she needs.
I think it's a huge compliment that she wants you there. It means that she considers you to be a safe, strong person whom she wants around!
Good luck, though, this might be a tough situation.
You're a good man for offering to go. |
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Posted: 12/28/04 - 19:54 Post subject:
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another one. I wouldn't even question it, it's shows that you are an important part of her life
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HYPERASHEL
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Posted: 12/29/04 - 08:51 Post subject:
So i asked Miss Steph about the family thing for tonight. She asked out of polite reflex and was wishing actually she hadn't asked. She feels it might get VERY intense. So i got points still for being intuitive.  I get out of a probable awkward situation. and to top it all off get to go skating with the club tonight. 
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