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airehead
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:43    Post subject: ***WARNING: Downer thread question***
I feel compelled to ask, although many people don't want to talk or think about it:

Have you discussed your burial plans with a loved one?

Have you chosen guardians for your children and/or pets?

Have you made a will?

Does that will include your burial preferences? (especially if they are very important to you?)

Does that will include your chosen guardians?



I just wanted to ask, because my choice for burial plans has caused a stink with my in-laws and they have intimated they would "fight" my last wishes because they are "un-Christian". Mr Aire has no problem with my choices but I put them in my will anyway.

People sometimes get strange when dealing with death so it's best to make your wishes known.


Sorry if this is too negative or too much of a downer....

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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:50    Post subject:
I told the hubby to bury me face down. That way everyone could kiss my a$$ goodbye!!
airehead
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:52    Post subject:
akern wrote:
I told the hubby to bury me face down. That way everyone could kiss my a$$ goodbye!!


LOL LOL
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:52    Post subject:
I don't think it's a downer. Everyone should have these plans - if not in writing than at least have discussed them with your SO or thought about them.

I know (were I not here tomorrow) nearly everyone who would speak at my service*, the music they'd play, and that stuff. Any property would go to Mrs.G and/or our son. I'm not sure what I'd want done as far as burial, cremating, etc.

It's not a negative thing - just something so your family is taken care of and knows what to do.

* need someone from my circle of running peeps still. All Riff Raffers welcome, fetus to ninety!
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:52    Post subject:
[quote="akern"]I told the hubby to bury me face down. That way everyone could kiss my a$$ goodbye!![/quote]

Or use it for a bike rack.....
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:54    Post subject:
Have you discussed your burial plans with a loved one?

John and I both have. I want to be buried, he wants to be cremated. There are times I tell him that we needn't wait. Some lighter fluid and a match, tada. It won't hurt for very long, surely.

Have you chosen guardians for your children and/or pets?

Yes, as it is now, SIL gets the children. However, I'm changing that to my father. He sees them often, knows them well. SIL, neither apply.

Have you made a will?

Yes. Need to update it though. It does include the guardianship stuff.

Does that will include your burial preferences? (especially if they are very important to you?)

No, because in the grand scheme of things, it won't matter. I'll be dead, hopefully in Heaven, so my earthly remains will matter nothing to me. Whatever the family feels is best is okie dokie by me at this point.

Not a downer post. Important stuff to think about.
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:54    Post subject:
robp wrote:
akern wrote:
I told the hubby to bury me face down. That way everyone could kiss my a$$ goodbye!!


Or use it for a bike rack.....


From pics I've seen, she has a tiny a$$--so it better be a very thin tire.... Mr. Green
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:55    Post subject:
Yeppo.. sign, sealed and delivered. We're pretty much minimalists, so all my will verbage deals mostly with whether my wife and I should go together, how/who we want the kids taken care of. We've actually told few people, 'cuz there's no need to make waves on a one in a million chance of it happening, but I'm sure every family has a part of it that thinks the custody decision a person makes is wrong. What can you do? I figure the attorney at the will reading can take the heat. dunno
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 16:55    Post subject:
[quote="robp"]
akern wrote:
I told the hubby to bury me face down. That way everyone could kiss my a$$ goodbye!![/quote]

Or use it for a bike rack.....


LOL
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 17:00    Post subject:
Not a downer at all. Better to make sure everyone knows what YOUR wishes are while you still have a voice instead of everybody fighting about it later when you're gone (or incapacitated).
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 17:02    Post subject:
airehead wrote:
robp wrote:
akern wrote:
I told the hubby to bury me face down. That way everyone could kiss my a$$ goodbye!!


Or use it for a bike rack.....


From pics I've seen, she has a tiny a$$--so it better be a very thin tire.... Mr. Green


Don't worry.... it'll fit.... Twisted Evil
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 17:05    Post subject:
I would like to donate whatever of me they can use and/or creamate whats left. My mom knows this, I guess at this point she is as significant an 'other' as I have right now... Mr. Green
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 17:05    Post subject:
brie k wrote:
Some lighter fluid and a match, tada. It won't hurt for very long, surely.


THICH QUANG DUC made it look like it didn't hurt at all.

http://www.quangduc.net/BoTatQuangDuc/25photo.html - A little disturbing, but a good read.
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 17:06    Post subject:
robp wrote:
airehead wrote:
robp wrote:
akern wrote:
I told the hubby to bury me face down. That way everyone could kiss my a$$ goodbye!!


Or use it for a bike rack.....


From pics I've seen, she has a tiny a$$--so it better be a very thin tire.... Mr. Green


Don't worry.... it'll fit.... Twisted Evil


Note to self: Discuss with hubby about who won't be invited to my funeral. Mr. Green
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PostPosted: 01/13/04 - 17:06    Post subject: Re: ***WARNING: Downer thread question***
airehead wrote:
I feel compelled to ask, although many people don't want to talk or think about it:

Have you discussed your burial plans with a loved one?
Yes. I want to be cremated and my ashes scattered in my favorite part of the mountains in Calgary.

Have you chosen guardians for your children and/or pets?
Don't have those. I'll update if I get a pet. Wink

Have you made a will?
No, that part still wigs me out, but I know I need to do that so I may soon. I do have a Living Will with a no life support order, that one's really important. No Karen Ann Quinlan existance here please!

Does that will include your burial preferences? (especially if they are very important to you?)
No, but the people closest to me know what they are, I'll probably add them when I make a will, just in case things change down the road.


Wink


I've seen that in my own family, what you said about people not respecting your wishes, and I just think personally that is wrong. Especially if your wishes put less burden on them. I know I'd have a fight with my mother the control freak, who tried to buy me a burial plot next to hers and my dads that she's already bought and I sold it back and gave her the money back. I don't want that. Besides, if I ever got married (gasp!) I'd want to be buried with MY family, i.e. hubby and children, not them. That may sound cold, but that's too bad.
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