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copteacher
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 Posted: 01/13/04 - 17:31 Post subject: Re: ***WARNING: Downer thread question***
Have you discussed your burial plans with a loved one?
Yes
Have you chosen guardians for your children and/or pets?
Yes
Have you made a will?
Yes
Does that will include your burial preferences? (especially if they are very important to you?)
No
Does that will include your chosen guardians?
Yes
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Cappy
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 17:35 Post subject: None of the below
Have you discussed your burial plans with a loved one? Nope
Have you chosen guardians for your children and/or pets? Nope
Have you made a will? Nope
Does that will include your burial preferences? (especially if they are very important to you?) Nope
Does that will include your chosen guardians? Nope
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runaroundsue
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 18:53 Post subject:
airehead-----I'm having the same problems......I don't want a funeral....I want to be cremated and my closet living relative disposes of them.....I don't want to be on a shelf......if they know anything about me....they'd know what to do. I told my husband that to run a race and dispose of me at every mile marker.
My family says that it is very selfish not to have a funeral for the living...that the living need to say good bye. I'm like.....so have one and stick a picture on table.....people looking at my corpse creeps me out!!!!
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cherylpf
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 18:54 Post subject:
| runaroundsue wrote: | airehead-----I'm having the same problems......I don't want a funeral....I want to be cremated and my closet living relative disposes of them.....I don't want to be on a shelf......if they know anything about me....they'd know what to do. I told my husband that to run a race and dispose of me at every mile marker.
My family says that it is very selfish not to have a funeral for the living...that the living need to say good bye. I'm like.....so have one and stick a picture on table.....people looking at my corpse creeps me out!!!! |
Yes, yes and yes. Fortunately several in my family have done or plan to do this so it shouldn't be too big of a controversy. Well, I say that but I'm not married yet...
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airehead
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 19:07 Post subject:
| cherylpf wrote: | | runaroundsue wrote: | airehead-----I'm having the same problems......I don't want a funeral....I want to be cremated and my closet living relative disposes of them.....I don't want to be on a shelf......if they know anything about me....they'd know what to do. I told my husband that to run a race and dispose of me at every mile marker.
My family says that it is very selfish not to have a funeral for the living...that the living need to say good bye. I'm like.....so have one and stick a picture on table.....people looking at my corpse creeps me out!!!! |
Yes, yes and yes. Fortunately several in my family have done or plan to do this so it shouldn't be too big of a controversy. Well, I say that but I'm not married yet... |
Bingo! I would love to have my ashes scattered over Alaska. It's the only place I've ever felt that I belonged. I felt I was finally home. That way, my survivors get a trip to Alaska, too!!
Mr Aire's uncle is a mortician and has been for many years. What he recommends is to divide the ashes. He says that having a marker with some of the ashes interred is great for future generations that want to come back and touch base with some of their history.
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msparks
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 19:43 Post subject:
| runaroundsue wrote: | | airehead-----I'm having the same problems......I don't want a funeral....I want to be cremated and my closet living relative disposes of them. |
Sue, is there something you want your relative to tell the world? 
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omega lambda
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 19:50 Post subject:
Delta and I have made our wishes known to each other, but we have yet to prepare a will. Guardians are no longer an issue for us.
I will say this though, it is very wise to do it now; when you're not sick or ready to die. My dad had not planned any of his final wishes, and I think it was twice as hard for him to think about it and do while he was dying. In fact, he didn't finish. It was too hard for him. And it was really hard for us to finish it up. I learned an incredibly valuable lesson there. When my time comes, I don't want to have to think about it then, and I don't want my husband or children to even have to think about what to do. I just want them to know who to call. So getting it done is at the top of my priority list.
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 19:54 Post subject:
I have nothing formal, but I have made my wants known to my family and the Ranger.
Ian goes to his dad. That's the way it should be.
If Dad is unable then his dad's parents.
If they are unable, then my mother.
I wish to be cremated, and because I am a Naval veteran with a deep love for the sea either a Viking burial or a burial at sea. Whatever they can come up with.
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msparks
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 19:59 Post subject:
Downer? For some, yes. Me? Not even close. I've already bought and paid for my final "property." I just haven't gotten around to planting that area yet. Hey, I don't want the greenery to die before I get there!
I'm a Navy veteran and as far as I understand the current laws/regulations, I am entitled a burial at sea. This can be easily accomplished with my desire to be cremated. My "dirt plot" is next to my wife's but I still want a portion of my ashes to be scattered at sea. And let me tell you, I've been onboard a ship when I heard the "Attention, all hands. Stand by for burial detail" whistle. (That's the specific tune played by the boatswain's mate on his "pipe.") It sent chills....
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 20:15 Post subject:
I have discussed most of the stuff with the wife and the family knows that we are all registered organ donors but we haven't made anything official yet. Probably work on that this year.
I agree that this is not a downer question. Some people just need reminders to get it done. (Like me  )
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Maddies Wench
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 20:19 Post subject:
| msparks wrote: | Downer? For some, yes. Me? Not even close. I've already bought and paid for my final "property." I just haven't gotten around to planting that area yet. Hey, I don't want the greenery to die before I get there!
I'm a Navy veteran and as far as I understand the current laws/regulations, I am entitled a burial at sea. This can be easily accomplished with my desire to be cremated. My "dirt plot" is next to my wife's but I still want a portion of my ashes to be scattered at sea. And let me tell you, I've been onboard a ship when I heard the "Attention, all hands. Stand by for burial detail" whistle. (That's the specific tune played by the boatswain's mate on his "pipe.") It sent chills.... |
When I was deployed we did two at once, one after the other. A bunch of us lined up on deck in dress blues and they did the whole pallbearer with the ashes thing. Ensign Clabber said some noble words and over they went. Unfortunately, the urns had to be opened and although it was as calm as calm could be...a freak wind came up both times and poor Ens Clabbers looked like a powdered donut when he stood back up from dusting the ashes over the fantail.
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 21:40 Post subject:
| Maddie's Wench wrote: | | When I was deployed we did two at once, one after the other. A bunch of us lined up on deck in dress blues and they did the whole pallbearer with the ashes thing. Ensign Clabber said some noble words and over they went. Unfortunately, the urns had to be opened and although it was as calm as calm could be...a freak wind came up both times and poor Ens Clabbers looked like a powdered donut when he stood back up from dusting the ashes over the fantail. |
You don't tug on Superman's cape,
You don't spit into the wind...
(shudder....)
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AlaninTX
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 21:56 Post subject:
I heard they were going to bury me in an arcade game regardless of my preference  .
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airehead
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 21:58 Post subject:
| AlaninTX wrote: | | I heard they were going to bury me in an arcade game regardless of my preference . |
Actually, the best part is you don't know where you'll turn up next!!!
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Posted: 01/13/04 - 23:33 Post subject:
We've discussed it, but put nothing in writting. Just this week, Art mentioned we should write our wills, just in case.
The only thing we have to worry about is the pets. My family knows better than to put them in a shelter. I know they'd take the dogs, and one of our good friends here would take the cats. She loves them. My brother would most likely take a cat also.
I would prefer to be cremated, but Art's uncomfortable with it. If he survives me (so highly unlikely  ), I'd rather him be happy and able to live with the situation. It won't matter to me any more.
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