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keltic63
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 Posted: 05/24/04 - 16:59 Post subject: Your support please (UPDATE)
| keltic wrote: | I'm meeting with my Pastor and STBX in an hour. We will be trying to come to some agreement so that we can settle the divorce quickly and quietly. I am very apprehensive about going into this meeting. I have no idea what is fair to me or to her. We will be trying to work it out on our own so that the stbx doesn't have to put out a lot of money in legal fees. I've already put a lawyer on retainer, but any amount not used will be refunded to me.
custody doesn't appear to be an issue, but the resolution of the debt incurred during the marriage certainly will be a hot issue. she already thinks I'm getting off too easy as far as the support award is concerned.
send good vibes please. |
UPDATE: Well, now that certainly didn't go very well........ as far as coming to any real agreement anyway. on the other hand, I stood my ground, argued about how my taking over the credit card debt while she assumes the mortgage is slightly unfair (and I'm really torn on this) she gets the house but assumes the mortgage that was refinanced just over a year ago. If I take the remaining credit debt she's carrying, dollar-wise it balances out, but when she's done paying, she has a house. when I'm done, I have nothing but the receipts. She seems to think that the orthodontist bill isn't covered by the child support check. And once again, I've learned that I am a no-good, dirty-rotten scoundrel....but then we all knew that already, didn't we?
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cherylpf
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:00 Post subject:
Wow...prayers for answers, agreement and peaceful resolution.
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genie
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:03 Post subject:
Stand your ground, keltic, and don't take any more than your fair share, even if she tries to guilt you into it. She's perfectly capable of pulling her weight if she has to and you both know that.
Good luck and call me if it's not too late when you get done.....
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crazyfrog
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:05 Post subject:
good vibes headed your way! good luck!
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Molly600
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:05 Post subject:
Good luck, I hope you can get it resolved quickly, fairly and without incident. We'll be thinking about you.
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Maddies Wench
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:05 Post subject:
State facts.
Keep your cool.
She's gonna try to piss you off so you look bad.
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JACKED UP
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:15 Post subject:
| cherylpf wrote: | | Wow...prayers for answers, agreement and peaceful resolution. |
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kattzoo
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:21 Post subject:
I'm praying for you Steve! I hope it's not too tough emotionally on you.
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akern
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:28 Post subject:
| genie wrote: | Stand your ground, keltic, and don't take any more than your fair share, even if she tries to guilt you into it. She's perfectly capable of pulling her weight if she has to and you both know that.
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HYPERASHEL
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 17:32 Post subject:
| Maddie's Wench wrote: | State facts.
Keep your cool.
She's gonna try to piss you off so you look bad. |
thanks MW
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rolling rock
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 18:23 Post subject:
| kattzoo wrote: | | I'm praying for you Steve! I hope it's not too tough emotionally on you. |
good luck Keltic.
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shelee
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 18:34 Post subject:
My heart certainly goes out to both of you. It's such a mess, really, and when emotions are involved it's so hard to resolve because both sides have good points...at last that's what it feels like when dealing with all of this post marital stuff my stbx and I are facing. Good luck, Keltic.
Shelly
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Gogirlgo
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 18:44 Post subject:
I'm thinking of you, Steve, and I know that you'll be your great self in this and all matters.
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kristin31
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 19:59 Post subject:
Good Luck! Divorce is never fun, and negotiations plus emotions can equal a messy outcome. I hope you have a peaceful, reasonable resolution.
(Please don't try to sue her for alimony. Not that you would. Some guys would.)
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keltic63
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Posted: 05/24/04 - 20:40 Post subject:
thanks for the good wishes and prayers
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