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akern
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 Posted: 12/22/03 - 12:35 Post subject: When your friends have bratty kids.
Has anyone else run into this? There's some friends of ours and they have one kid. She's a year younger than Nichole and is the brattiest kid I've ever met.
We babysat her for an evening 2 years ago and here's what insued: She wrote on the walls with crayon and marker, she went down the hall locked all the doors from the inside and closed them, she can pinch like you wouldn't believe, she tried to escape. I know there's more but I can't think of it now. I will never babysit her again.
So we invite these friends over on Saturday to play some cards and such. And this kid is still a terror at 7. We ordered pizza and had the kids set in the next room. As I'm bringing the pizza I hear: "No Pizza on the walls Jordan!!"  I did not find any pizza on the walls but found plenty in the couch cushions and carpet.  Besides that she was an a$$ all night. I felt sorry for Nichole having to put up with her.
So how do you tell your friends to come over but leave the kid home?
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 12:43 Post subject:
"Hi, this is akern. We're having an Adult Night and wanted to know if you and hubby wanted to come for cards." If they ask if they can bring the kid - which they undoubtedly will - say, "No, we're having an Adult Night."
Of course, they may be very rude like my cousin, who decided to bring her 2YO daughter to my brother's wedding despite the fact that the invite was addressed only to her and her husband, and that it clearly said "WE KINDLY REQUEST NO CHILDREN" on the invite for their black tie reception. 
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 12:44 Post subject:
move away.
Otherwise...your stuck with the kid.
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 12:46 Post subject:
Dog crate? 
sorry, I don't know anything about kids...
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 12:52 Post subject:
| Running Brewer wrote: | Dog crate?
sorry, I don't know anything about kids... |
That doesn't work?
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akern
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 12:56 Post subject:
| Pug wrote: | | Running Brewer wrote: | Dog crate?
sorry, I don't know anything about kids... |
That doesn't work? |
She'd figure a way out. Brat tho she is, the kid is hella smart for her age.
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 12:57 Post subject:
Situations like that, me and my wife will tag-team turns being with the kids. It's easier if you're at their house, where it's not your problem if there's property damage. Or meet at a "nuetral third party" location. Also, when you're somewhere else other than your house, it's a whole lot easier to announce, "Oh, I forget to tell you, we couldn't stay long, it's time we get going" if the kid really gets unbearable.
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 12:59 Post subject:
I also learned that 'serving coffee' is a sign to your guests that it's time for them to go.
But instead of simply serving the coffee, why not dump it on this kid right away?
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omega lambda
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 13:00 Post subject:
I've had to deal with that too, so right in front of the parents, I told the bratty kidlet that I don't allow that kind of behavior in my house, and if he continued, I would have his parents take him home. His parents were a little annoyed with me, but they played dumb and said, "Oh! I didn't know little Johnny was doing that! He never does things like that at home...blah blah blah." Yeah, right. Anyway, they got over it, and little Johnny was never a brat at my house again.
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 13:07 Post subject:
oh Akern i so relate. we had two kids here for about 6 hours once with their parents. winter - no outside stuff. these kids were sliding down our railing in the front hall, spitballing our ceiling -- one is a loft ceiling and we never did get the spitballs down cuz we'd need an extension ladder. our house was their gymnasium while their parents sat and watched silently.
i did remind them that my kids are not allowed to do that stuff in the house -- it was like they were deaf. i swear, it was an episode of Everybody loves Raymond come to life in my house. it sucked. even my kids-- to this day -- are traumatized by those brats and their spitballs.
of course, mr. 'd me cuz she was a very good college friend of mine. her kids, i have to say, were the suckiest kids i've ever met or encountered ever.
yeah, Nichole gets some Mighty Beans in her stocking this year for putting up with that crap. pizza on the walls???????
LEAVE THE KID HOME next time. it's ok to bring your dog.
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 13:11 Post subject:
Anytime we hang out with the SIL it's quite discouraging as one of her kids is COMPLETELY out of control...Not in a total evil way...just that she doesn't listen to anyone so she's constantly putting herself and others at danger (i.e. jumping off the bed and landing on Pippi  ) After rushing her to the hospital and paying a $800 medical bill, that was the final straw for the SIL and that's why we got the Pips!
Anyway, it's tough to watch the SIL and her hubby do absolutely NOTHING to correct her ways except scream.
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 13:17 Post subject:
| omega lambda wrote: | | I've had to deal with that too, so right in front of the parents, I told the bratty kidlet that I don't allow that kind of behavior in my house, and if he continued, I would have his parents take him home. His parents were a little annoyed with me, but they played dumb and said, "Oh! I didn't know little Johnny was doing that! He never does things like that at home...blah blah blah." Yeah, right. Anyway, they got over it, and little Johnny was never a brat at my house again. |
ICC. One time, my 2nd cousin's daughter was giving my cousin a hard time. I might have been 24 at the time. She was being an absolute A$$ to her mother. I was in their home, but I explained to Betsy that maybe she treats her mother like that and usually gets away with it, but she won't while I'm around, and I'll whip her right there in front of her mother. Betsy never had a bad thing to say to her mom when I was around from then on.
Our neighbor, Patrick, the youngest of 3, obviously does anything he wants at his house, and has broken 2 things here in my home. I explained the first time he did it that we don't throw things here, and after the 2nd time, that was it, he's not allowed in my house. Probably ever. I explained to him that only well behaved children may come in, and until he decides to be well behaved, he will not be allowed inside our home.
I don't think there is anything wrong with telling parents that their children are out of control. It's not always easy to do it tactfully, and I sometimes don't, but it is your home, and you can decide who will enter.
When we've had people babysit our children, I've always told the babysitter (always an adult) that they have the power and obligation to discipline my children when I'm not there. I don't expect my children to misbehave, but it happens, and just like at home, there has to be consequences.
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 13:26 Post subject:
| omega lambda wrote: | | I've had to deal with that too, so right in front of the parents, I told the bratty kidlet that I don't allow that kind of behavior in my house, and if he continued, I would have his parents take him home. His parents were a little annoyed with me, but they played dumb and said, "Oh! I didn't know little Johnny was doing that! He never does things like that at home...blah blah blah." Yeah, right. Anyway, they got over it, and little Johnny was never a brat at my house again. |
Good for you. That worked for my mom and dad with my niece and nephew as well. My sister was ticked at first but got over it. And the kids are much more pleasant to be around.
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 13:27 Post subject:
| shelflifers wrote: |
But instead of simply serving the coffee, why not dump it on this kid right away? |
Dumping poop coffee - nice idea, Shelf!
Maybe something about achey brings out the brattiness in the yout. 
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akern
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Posted: 12/22/03 - 13:59 Post subject:
As I found with the babysitting incident you can tell her she will behave. She still won't. Her father had called to check on her I told him what she was up to, he talked to her and told her there would be consequences when she got home, as soon as I hung up the phone she told me she didn't care.
She is slightly less bratty when her parents are around, but still intolarable.
I really hate to feel this way about a child, but I'm convinced she's the devil. 
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