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MechEngDropout
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 Posted: 10/25/03 - 13:41 Post subject: When friends aren't friends
What do you do when your so called good friends decide they don't want you in their lives?
In the last 4 months I've had 3 awesome friends pretty much erase me from their lives. I don't know why. At least one has blocked me from AIM, MSN, etc. All of them are actively taking measures to avoid me. And I'm clueless. I'd ask them why, but it's impossible to get in touch with them.
None of these 3 people have any contact with each other.
I don't think anything about me has changed. At least nothing major has changed.
I don't have a lot of friends, and at the moment I really don't have any good friends that I can share stuff with. It f$@#ing sucks.
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TriBob
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 14:34 Post subject:
Bummer. Its hard to tell why until you get a change to talk with them. I hope things change around soon.
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airehead
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 14:44 Post subject:
That does suck lemons! I think your friends are making a huge mistake. You seem like a really fun person to be around--even though you are a lubbock Hatah. 
As much as it hurts, move forward and seek new people who appreciate you. It sucks to start from scratch, but in the end it will be worth it to be surrounded by people who seek you out and enjoy you.
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TimRuns
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 14:45 Post subject:
| TriBob wrote: | | Bummer. Its hard to tell why until you get a change to talk with them. I hope things change around soon. |
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Laurie Ellen
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 15:10 Post subject:
So you've lost 3... look how many you've found here!! Woohoo! I don't even KNOW those people, and I can tell you already that I'm a much better quality person than they are...
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blue
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 16:15 Post subject:
i hear you bud.
i've had the same happen (mostly with close girl friends), and you kinda wonder "what the hell did i do?".
but it tends to balance out to "alright, well more time for people that appreciate me". sometimes it's a blessing.
though it makes you want to make a second effort to get in touch with good friends you might've grown apart from.
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kattzoo
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 16:19 Post subject:
That bites. I think as we age we go through stages where our friends change, and that may be what is happening to you. In college, our HS friends become less important to us as we develop new friendships and move on, and then the same thing happens in college. We graduate, or our friends do, we get in relationships etc... that good friends come and go. My guess is you're at one of those stages where your friendships are changing.
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brie k
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 17:02 Post subject:
I went through a spell like that, where I parted ways with friends for different reasons, mainly because I had kids, they didn't, and our values just weren't the same anymore. It happens. One of them recently contacted me after we hadn't spoken in years and we have that great relationship we once did. Maybe in time yours will come back to you, and maybe they won't. Invariably, whatever happens will be for your greater good. Just has a way of working out like that.
You're obviously hurt, and for that I am sorry.
I think the best friendships happen quite by accident. My best friend, I met on the internet @ iVillage, and she emailed me just to say something nice about me. Very cool, and we are so close now, and a true close, we are the truest of friends. My other best girlfriend I met at Pier One--turns out we had been at Tech School together in the USAF, but really weren't friends at the time, but 13 years after the fact, we recognized each other in the store and we've been close ever since. I'm hoping that your next set of friends will happen just like these, out of the blue and completely appreciated by all parties.
Hang in there.  You've always got your friends here at RR. 
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gretriever
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 17:18 Post subject:
| Laurie Ellen wrote: | | So you've lost 3... look how many you've found here!! Woohoo! I don't even KNOW those people, and I can tell you already that I'm a much better quality person than they are... |
(though we'll have to take LE's word on that last part  )
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akern
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 17:52 Post subject:
That sometimes happens as you get older. You're a fairly young fella aren't ya? Soon friends start getting married, starting a family, you just lose touch. Maybe they've simply found something else that is occupying their time right now. A similar thing happend to me. I moved out of my parents house at a pretty early age. I started working alot to pay the bills. I think my friends (who were still living with their parents and whooping it up) knew if they called I'd just tell them I had to work anyway, so they quit calling. 
They are still friends, when I run into them I'm glad to see them. But the lives we lead are totally different. 
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Maddies Wench
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 18:44 Post subject:
Perhaps you should stop picking your nose at parties.
Kidding...just kidding.
People are weird. That's my pat answer.
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airehead
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Posted: 10/25/03 - 18:46 Post subject:
| Maddie's Wench wrote: | Perhaps you should stop picking your nose at parties.
Kidding...just kidding.
People are weird. That's my pat answer. |
I agree, people can be downright awful at times. 
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Posted: 10/26/03 - 11:22 Post subject:
| blue wrote: | i hear you bud.
i've had the same happen (mostly with close girl friends), and you kinda wonder "what the hell did i do?".
but it tends to balance out to "alright, well more time for people that appreciate me". sometimes it's a blessing.
though it makes you want to make a second effort to get in touch with good friends you might've grown apart from. |
Well said Blue. Also, I know as college went on, I don't know what it was, maybe the stress of the pending real world but I saw a few friendships fold and had a good friend effective cut off ALOT of good friendships and none of it was explained.
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Posted: 10/26/03 - 15:44 Post subject:
Aww heck...the answer is obvious! You are just like me. An Engineer and a Runner.
People think yer weird cuz ya run 
And everyone else hates ya because ya design defective products
Just kidding here.. I have gone thru the same things over time, but never been blo......
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robp
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Posted: 10/27/03 - 08:44 Post subject:
| RangerG wrote: | Aww heck...the answer is obvious! You are just like me. An Engineer and a Runner.
People think yer weird cuz ya run
And everyone else hates ya because ya design defective products
Just kidding here.. I have gone thru the same things over time, but never been blo......
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interesting notice........
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