Well, I called my friend to apologize...
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brie k
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 Posted: 01/11/04 - 14:26 Post subject: Well, I called my friend to apologize...
while I don't feel that the fault of what happened with Steff (see the 'I'm negative because' thread if you missed out) rests solely on my shoulders, I do recognize that I may have been over reacting in getting so upset... So I swallowed my pride today and called her to apologize, and her response was that she's not ready to hear an apology, thanks for calling, bye. And that was pretty much that.
Part of me is really sad, but another part of me thinks that perhaps it is for the best. I realize I am as flawed as anyone else, and if my friends cannot accept the bad in me along with the good, then maybe it's just not worth my effort.
It's really just par for the course. I'm having such a horrible time lately, and this is just one more thing. 2004 was supposed to be such a good year, a complete change from the absolute horror that 2003 was, and so far it's been filled with nothing but heartache. I so long for happier times, or at least some peace in regard to the time I'm having now. <sigh>
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crazyfrog
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Posted: 01/11/04 - 18:06 Post subject:
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andydp
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Posted: 01/11/04 - 18:07 Post subject:
Brie:
Lighten up on yourself !! Gees its only Jan 11, you wtill have about 350 days to go for 2004 !!
Things will get better. Its that power of positive thinking like Norman Vincent Peale expoused.
Go for the gusto !!
Andy
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Posted: 01/12/04 - 06:29 Post subject:
Brie,
I'm sorry to hear that. It is disappointing when you try to be the bigger person and apoligize for the sake of the relationship, even when you feel you did nothing wrong, and the other person decides to continue being negative. And I don't think you were wrong at all. Hope you don't let it get you down. Lots of year left and a nice person like you probably has plenty of happy times ahead! 
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keltic63
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Posted: 01/12/04 - 09:36 Post subject:
I know who the bigger and better person is: it's brie!
sometimes we have to make difficult choices and eventhough we know it's for the best, it doesn't make it any easier. (not that I'd know  )
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Maddies Wench
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Posted: 01/12/04 - 10:47 Post subject:
Honestly, if it were me, It'd tick me off all over again to have someone say that to me.
"I'm not ready to hear an apology." Well, let me kiss your butt until you are ready. NOT!
That's emotional blackmail, in my opinion. If I were still truly angry and I can never stay truly angry at a friend..., I might have said something like:
"I appreciate and accept your apology. We both said some things that were (hurtful, not right, whatever) ." Then if I was still pissed at the whole thing, I might suggest a cooling off period or something to give us both perspective.
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brie k
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Posted: 01/12/04 - 10:59 Post subject:
Thanks all. I feel better today. I'm taking steps that I think will help improve my outlook and thus get me to a better place. Keep a happy thought for me. 
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Posted: 01/12/04 - 12:15 Post subject:
Oh dear. I don't want you to feel sad, Brie. It's right that it's too soon to call this year a bust. Look at your beautiful family, look at how you've attacked your school projects, look at what a good and sympathetic and fair ear you've been on this list.
And can I just say for the record, you weren't wrong then. It was good of you to apologize not b/c you were wrong but to try to set things right with your "friend."
Your friend is a piss. I'm annoyed at her.
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