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brie k
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 Posted: 01/13/05 - 15:50 Post subject: The bad thing about college & motherhood...
is that when Will has a half day, I have to be home to get him off the bus and wait for his sister to get home as well. I'm going to miss my Theology class tomorrow (day 3 of class!!) because of this. URG.
I of course mentioned to this particular prof yesterday that being a mom, I want to be the exception to his attendence rule, but dang, not so soon! And of course, I didn't even KNOW that Will had a half day until this morning when my darling daughter mentioned it to me. I'm.A.Bad.Mother!!!
(I emailed my prof, hopefully he'll be understanding!)
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Posted: 01/13/05 - 15:52 Post subject:
how often are half days?
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Posted: 01/13/05 - 16:00 Post subject:
I'm certain your prof will understad your problem. Let's face it, you're missing class because of your kids not because of a hangover.
To be on the safe side, be sure to tell all your profs about home situation.
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brie k
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Posted: 01/13/05 - 16:10 Post subject:
Ok, looks like we have 2 more scheduled. One on Feb 25 and another on April 13. Both of these days are class days, of course.
In Charlotte this would not have been a problem because Libby always arrived home before Will. She gets home an hour after he does here though.
And I'm sure this is just the tip of the iceberg. 3 kids in 3 different school situations, it will be challenging. And this is just the stuff we can count on. I'm sure there will be sick days thrown in there as well.
All of my profs know that I'm a mom. Unlike Kathryn though, they don't realize just yet that I'm not the average student. I attended Kathryn's class last semester and didn't have to. I'm not a I-don't-feel-like-it-today-so-I'll-just-skip-class type of student. Hopefully they'll just cut a girl a break.
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Posted: 01/13/05 - 16:27 Post subject:
Yesterday at 8:30 am the girlie got sick at school and was being sent home. I was in class and unable to get the message until 8:45. Since I had taken the shuttle to Stillwater that morning, I was stuck until the next bus at 10:45 am. My dad was working and unable to pick her up. My mother isn't driving anymore, so she couldn't get her. Despite 3 calls from me to his cell and 2 to the receptionist at the dealership, DH wasn't responding.
I didn't get a hold of the DH until 10 am when he went to pick her up, then he complained to be how he was going to be late for an 11 am meeting because he had to pick her up (implying non of this would of happened if I wasn't in college).
Needless to say I felt pretty crappy yesterday.
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Posted: 01/13/05 - 16:36 Post subject:
Sorry to hear that. I think none of the dads were absolutely clear on how much work it would be for them for us to go to school. How could they have been?
The system is not set up for us to succeed in both realms. The only way it will work is if our little people never get sick or have a day off. So really, there's no winning way and all we can do is muddle through the best we can.
As Jenn points out, even the support system we have in place often fails when we need it. But without a support system, it's even worse. Moving to a new place makes that hard. Perhaps a church nearby has some retirees it can put you in touch with?
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Posted: 01/13/05 - 16:52 Post subject:
I have to agree with Go. Since going back to work, Mr Aire has really stepped up to the plate wonderfully. I don't know what I'll do if/when he gets deployed.
I always feel guilty that my son isn't getting enough of me. It is tough to feel like a success in both worlds simultaneously.
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brie k
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Posted: 01/13/05 - 17:07 Post subject:
| Ms. Jenn wrote: | Yesterday at 8:30 am the girlie got sick at school and was being sent home. I was in class and unable to get the message until 8:45. Since I had taken the shuttle to Stillwater that morning, I was stuck until the next bus at 10:45 am. My dad was working and unable to pick her up. My mother isn't driving anymore, so she couldn't get her. Despite 3 calls from me to his cell and 2 to the receptionist at the dealership, DH wasn't responding.
I didn't get a hold of the DH until 10 am when he went to pick her up, then he complained to be how he was going to be late for an 11 am meeting because he had to pick her up (implying non of this would of happened if I wasn't in college).
Needless to say I felt pretty crappy yesterday. |
 and not your fault, but yeah, I see how that makes you feel bad, for not being able to get the girlie.  to the hubby though.
You know, I talked to Kramer the other night, told him that I was disconnecting the Nextel, and he said "Glad to see you are cutting expenses." Umm, no, jack@$$, I still need a phone just in case someone needs me, and evidently our school buildings have some sort of Nextel Kryptonite in them.
I just got our schedules figured out, and turns out I don't have spring break when my kids do. Dammit. I don't worry too much about leaving Lib and Will at home together though, so we'll be ok. I may opt to miss Kathryn's classes on those days if nothing pressing is going on. We'll see how all of that shakes out.
You know though, having Kramer here wouldn't be any more help than doing this all alone. He was married to his job first, and I was like #10 on the list, if that. I don't think he even knew where Libby's middle school was in Charlotte, and only knew where Will's was because it was on the way to/from work.
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Posted: 01/13/05 - 23:30 Post subject:
I've realized that professors with wives and children (especially young children) understand the hardships the non-traditional students face. Most are understanding and accommodating if given a heads up instead of a "Oh, I forgot to tell you".
I was hoping to convey in my post that you aren't alone in your balancing college and motherhood woes. Thanks Go for helping me say it clearer.
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brie k
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Posted: 01/14/05 - 08:28 Post subject:
| Ms. Jenn wrote: | I've realized that professors with wives and children (especially young children) understand the hardships the non-traditional students face. Most are understanding and accommodating if given a heads up instead of a "Oh, I forgot to tell you".
I was hoping to convey in my post that you aren't alone in your balancing college and motherhood woes. Thanks Go for helping me say it clearer. |
I thought you were very clear.  I know that the college moms here face the same challenges that I do. It's nice to be able to vent to people who understand.
This semester is my first as a campus student so I'm just facing a new set of challenges. All of my profs have kids and know I have kids, so they may be more lenient than I suspect. I just need to make sure that I communicate with them and make the grade so they see that I'm not a slacker. I'm probably worried over nothing. I just froze when both Psych and Theology profs explained that attendance is worth 20% of our grade, then panicked over these half-days.
I think for the fall semester I really need to consider the kids' schedules and try to set up mine accordingly. I let Kathryn make this schedule for me. I probably should have been paying more attention there.
Thanks for the feedback, everyone!!
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Posted: 01/14/05 - 08:41 Post subject:
Its not just college mom's that face challenges
Its been my experience that teachers give more leeway to adult students. I completed my degree in 2000, and my kids were very young, and one wasn't even born yet, and I had the death of my father in law, a week prior to my son being born. I think as long as you are honest with the teachers, they will cut you some slack.
I should note, that most of the teachers I had, were teaching part time, they had other full time jobs in the courses they were teaching. So they actually understood the real world, and that adult students do have other demands and challenges
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Posted: 01/14/05 - 11:56 Post subject:
| Cappy wrote: | Its not just college mom's that face challenges
Its been my experience that teachers give more leeway to adult students. I completed my degree in 2000, and my kids were very young, and one wasn't even born yet, and I had the death of my father in law, a week prior to my son being born. I think as long as you are honest with the teachers, they will cut you some slack.
I should note, that most of the teachers I had, were teaching part time, they had other full time jobs in the courses they were teaching. So they actually understood the real world, and that adult students do have other demands and challenges |
I agree. I'm not a mom, but I do juggle a full time job and school and I find a lot of my peers do the same, some with kids and some not. I do think most of my teachers will cut us "grownups" more slack than the younger, traditional students. Especially if you are honest with them up front and make it clear that you're there to learn but that sometimes, being a mom, life does get in the way.
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