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airehead
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 Posted: 03/22/05 - 00:40 Post subject: That's sporting of you...
Question for parents and not-so-parental:
How to phrase this.
Sports are good. "Stage" parenting is bad. Encouraging your kids to try new things "good". Making them do stuff they hate can be bad.
How do you find the balance?
I want my son to play sports, I want him to see the value of sportsmanship and teams and playing, but when do I "force" the issue and when do I pull back?
Any advice or viewpoints are welcome.
What did your parents do? Did they force you to play and you hated it? Did they not allow you to participate at all? ?????
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HighHeat
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Posted: 03/22/05 - 00:46 Post subject:
tell them that they have to do an athletic extracurricular, but you dont care which one it is.
that was the approach my parents had, and I ended up being a 3 season varsity.
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AlexFilides
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Posted: 03/22/05 - 00:48 Post subject:
I've been somewhat on both sides playing just about every different sport. I've also coached Little League Baseball, youth soccer and basketball for a number of years. You can tell when the parents are pushing their kids into something.
I really think a kid needs to develop an interest in any sport. He may just have no interest at all and may find another activity more enjoyable. Not every kid is athletically inclined. I guess you could use an example as a parent pushing their kid to do homework or chores, if they get pushed into something, they're going to hate it a lot more. I think the coaches certainly have a major influence as well. A good coach that teaches the game, while letting the kids have fun will also influence the youngsters.
I think if the parents take an interest in sports i.e. watching sports on TV, following the box scores, going to games, buying sports memorabillia(sp?) I think it will have a much heavier impact, in whch, the child takes an interest.
I think forcing a child to play a sport, certainly isn't the way to go.
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coachmarkos
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Posted: 03/22/05 - 10:14 Post subject:
Let's see here.
Forcing a child to do something is probably wrong, but I won't let my children quit something once they have started either.
If they signed up for softball, they are going to play.
That being said, my kids really like sports. Of course, they are around them all the time. Their Dad is a coach, and both Mom and Dad run, so they both already are "into" running, too.
So, I'm not sure if I'm much help here, because I'm in a different situation.
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BobM59
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Posted: 03/22/05 - 10:20 Post subject:
My parents forced me to try sports when I was very young. At 5, my dad said I could play anything I wanted, be it football, soccer, baseball, basketball, whatever. But I HAD to try something, and stick with it for just one season. If I didn't like it, then I didn't have to keep playing. At that age, sports are so easy and non-competitive, it isn't tough to fall in love.
As things followed, I LOVED sports, and fell in love with Baseball and Soccer. This transitioned seamlessly to other sports, like Basketball and Football, Track, etc. It was good to know that I didn't HAVE to do anything, and could enjoy sports for what they were/are.
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