Seriously, though, wimmin.
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RunsLikeAGirl
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 Posted: 06/24/03 - 10:11 Post subject: Seriously, though, wimmin.
I think it was cheryl that brought up a topic similar to this:
Have any of you had a successful friendship with a guy - not necessarily a guy you've dated - when you were seriously dating someone else? Especially if you have a sneaking suspicion they find you attractive? You know, the whole When Harry Met Sally thing. Is it true?
I know, it's a hokey question, but inquiring minds want to know.
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runswithscissors
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 10:21 Post subject:
I want to know.
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coachmarkos
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 10:34 Post subject:
I vote in favor of the When Harry Met Sally thing.
If men find women attractive, they find them attractive.
It's biological.
Of course, I can only speak from my own personal experiences.
In my opinion it would be very difficult.
This is probably why I have few women friends. Except of course, the ladies here...which is my point. I have more women friends here than I do in real life. Why? 
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elkid
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 10:40 Post subject:
Still do, two guys in particular. Husband doesn't care, 'cause he likes them, too.
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cherylpf
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 10:46 Post subject: Re: Seriously, though, wimmin.
| RunsLikeAGirl wrote: | I think it was cheryl that brought up a topic similar to this:
Have any of you had a successful friendship with a guy - not necessarily a guy you've dated - when you were seriously dating someone else? Especially if you have a sneaking suspicion they find you attractive? You know, the whole When Harry Met Sally thing. Is it true?
I know, it's a hokey question, but inquiring minds want to know. |
you mean these men are having sex with me without my knowledge?
Yes it was me who brought it up and this is an interesting twist! I've had guy friends. Some I suspected of having an attraction to me. I'm also had guy friends when I wasn't dating anyone that I ended up dating. So I tend to believe the whole When Harry Met Sally thing, sadly.
Continue your discussion, I'm really curious now....
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coachmarkos
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 10:49 Post subject: Re: Seriously, though, wimmin.
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you mean these men are having sex with me without my knowledge?
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On the next episode of Jerry Springer...
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cherylpf
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 10:54 Post subject: Re: Seriously, though, wimmin.
| coachmarkos wrote: | | cherylpf wrote: |
you mean these men are having sex with me without my knowledge?
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On the next episode of Jerry Springer... |
Oops--I misquoted...IMDB.com says "You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?"
still makes a good Spring topic though! 
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akern
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 11:15 Post subject:
I used to have a really good guy friend when I was in relationships with others. But he got married and his wife hates me, so we don't talk anymore. 
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RunsLikeAGirl
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 11:52 Post subject:
Now, say dude is attracted to you, but you just don't care, and he's not really the type to actually act upon it, so you ignore it and continue cultivating said friendship. Does that make you a heartless bish because it's rubbing it in his face that he just can't have you, darn it?
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elkid
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 11:56 Post subject:
| RunsLikeAGirl wrote: | | Now, say dude is attracted to you, but you just don't care, and he's not really the type to actually act upon it, so you ignore it and continue cultivating said friendship. Does that make you a heartless bish because it's rubbing it in his face that he just can't have you, darn it? |
No. If you refused to be friends with people who were attracted to you, you'd be really limiting your number of friendships. Plus, if it's just a crush he'll get over it. Of course this assumes you won't be shakin' yo thang all up in his face, which WOULD make you a heartless b!tch. And a ho as well. 
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akern
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 11:59 Post subject:
| RunsLikeAGirl wrote: | | Now, say dude is attracted to you, but you just don't care, and he's not really the type to actually act upon it, so you ignore it and continue cultivating said friendship. Does that make you a heartless bish because it's rubbing it in his face that he just can't have you, darn it? |
 Not a very nice friend, young lady!!
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RunsLikeAGirl
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 12:03 Post subject:
| elkid wrote: | | Plus, if it's just a crush he'll get over it. Of course this assumes you won't be shakin' yo thang all up in his face, which WOULD make you a heartless b!tch. And a ho as well. |
Nice, elkid. Nice.
And akern, I am too a good friend!!!! The way I see it is that I have no control how said person does or does not feel towards me. Why should I worry about it when I'm not even TRYING to make him feel that way?
Seriously. Just askin'.
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elkid
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 12:07 Post subject:
| RunsLikeAGirl wrote: | The way I see it is that I have no control how said person does or does not feel towards me. Why should I worry about it when I'm not even TRYING to make him feel that way?
Seriously. Just askin'. |
Why are you asking? Sounds like you've already made up your mind. And a good decision as well.
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 12:13 Post subject:
I think you're just fine. If he knows you're just friends, and you aren't leading him on, then he is also making the choice to stay in the friendship.
One of my closest friends is a guy, and I would be willing to bet there is no attraction either way. We're more like arguing siblings. It's one of those weird situations. We worked together, I introduced him to his wife, he and I left to teach, and our spouses still work together.
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Posted: 06/24/03 - 12:34 Post subject:
I'm like Coach. I have no friends of the opposite gender except here online. My husband has had a couple of friends that have hung out at our house and by default have become my friends, but without Mr Aire being there there would be no contact between his friends and me. Mr Aire was the "link" in the friendship. Without him, there was nothing there.
Now, we really like to cultivate "couple" friends which are very hard to find. It really depends on four people really liking each other and not being threatened by anyone in the group.
I believe there can be a serious danger between males/females being friends when they are involved in their own relationships. I've seen it happen too often in the military. It starts out as innocent friendship, asking for advice, opinions etc and then BAM!!!!
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