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Tonight after TKD I was in the parking lot of the gym talking to my friend who is in TKD class with me (also the master's/my bosses wife). As we were leaving to go to our cars I hear my son yell her 4 yr old son's name. I looked and the boy had tried to get in our car (like always) and was pushing my son out of the way. In the meantime, he swung our car door open and put a pretty good sized ding in the car next to us. We're talking the size of a penny and pretty deep into the exterior of the car. Well, my husband and I are big fans of "if you put a ding in someone's car door you better leave a note." But, since this wasn't my fault or my son's fault I figured it really wasn't our place to leave a note. My friend, on the other hand, didn't even realize her son had done anything wrong because she was busy getting her other two kids into the car to leave.

If the owner of the car that got dinged is anything like my husband they will know exactly who they parked beside and may try to hunt us down the next time we are at the gym.

I'm feeling a real burden about this. I know some of you will say "it's just a car ding." But I feel something needs to be done. Do I tell my friend what her son did? I wasn't exactly "right there" when it happened but I know my friends' son well enough to know that every single time my car door is unlocked and my son is anywhere near thinking of getting in our car that my friends' son likes to push his way into our car. There is something about a DVD player (which, btw, isn't even ON because the car isn't on) that is appealing to him.

What should I do???

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I would say if you didn't see the whole incident, then you shouldn't really pin the blame on the other kid. There's always the possibility that it didn't happen the way it appears. You may want to approach it from the standpoint of exactly what you saw happen, with no inferences or assumptions. Tell it like you told us when you said you didn't see it all, and see what she thinks.

As for how you should handle the dinged person's door, I'd say that really comes down to whether or not you feel that letting this person know what happened takes priority over putting the responsibility where it belongs.

Sorry if this doesn't help.

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