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Gogirlgo
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 Posted: 10/28/04 - 14:46 Post subject:
| pokychick wrote: | | For me it would be very difficult to spend the rest of my life and raise children with someone whose religious views were radically different from mine. |
I hear that. I do feel that even though Rex and I don't come from the same religion, our religious views aren't particularly different. I think we both value a creator, we both see our place within this world, we both try to see the God in others, try to do God's work, etc. The language might be different, the main characters may be different but it's what more like what jrjo says, that the core stuff underneath is the same.
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camelia bedelia
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Posted: 10/28/04 - 15:55 Post subject:
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And aside from yourself, your spouse is going to be the person you really have the hugest concern for in regards to eternal life, no? So definitely, healthy, happy and successful marriages happen without this journey happening simultaneously, but it's been my experience and many around me, when a marriage includes an honest, open, earnest church life, it is even more fulfilling. |
I think this is true only if one partner believes their faith is the one true faith. I couldn't be married to anyone who believed they had it right and I had it wrong and I was going to hell because of it. But I could be married to someone who's faith was important to them but still respected my views. I think how you approach faith is more important than sharing the exact religion.
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runaroundsue
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Posted: 10/28/04 - 19:17 Post subject:
| camelia bedelia wrote: |
I think this is true only if one partner believes their faith is the one true faith. I couldn't be married to anyone who believed they had it right and I had it wrong and I was going to hell because of it. But I could be married to someone who's faith was important to them but still respected my views. I think how you approach faith is more important than sharing the exact religion. |
true dat. coming up on 15 years of marriage, our views are in reverse.
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coachmarkos
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Posted: 10/28/04 - 20:56 Post subject:
I have no input...my wife and I are the same religion.
However my Mom is Catholic and my Dad is Lutheran, and they've been together for 35 years.
Mom was the church-going prayerful one.
Dad is the Saint.
Go figure. 
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bburgoyne26
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Posted: 10/28/04 - 23:09 Post subject:
| camelia bedelia wrote: |
I think this is true only if one partner believes their faith is the one true faith. I couldn't be married to anyone who believed they had it right and I had it wrong and I was going to hell because of it. But I could be married to someone who's faith was important to them but still respected my views. I think how you approach faith is more important than sharing the exact religion. |
Wow.....that is kind of the situation I am in now....I am your basic liberal mainline ELCA Lutheran and my girlfriend is somewhere between an Evangelical and a Fundie.....and I know those people think us liberal Christians are going to hell cuz we don't believe in the inerrancy of the bible and we don't get all serious about being "born again".....but the GF is not judgemental like some fundies tend to be, but we really are used to our own kind of service.....I really don't want to go to her church and she is not used to mine.....I really don't know what will happen......I gave her the book "Stealing Jesus: How Fundamentalism Betrays Christianity" so that she can see the problems I have with the fundies.....she doesn't feel like she is like that, but she is naive and doesn't really see how judgemental the people are that she knows.....
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camelia bedelia
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Posted: 10/29/04 - 08:04 Post subject:
| bburgoyne26 wrote: |
I gave her the book "Stealing Jesus: How Fundamentalism Betrays Christianity" so that she can see the problems I have with the fundies..... |
Well it is a good sign that she didn't throw it at your head when you gave it to her. She must be at least a little open to hearing what you have to say.
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Posted: 06/30/06 - 16:08 Post subject: Re: Religion Differences and Relationships
| MechEngDropout wrote: | | How would a difference in religion affect dating/marriage in your life? If you are a firm [enter religion here] and your partner is a different denomination, would that bother you? What if they didn't believe in god? |
As long as my potential spouse was a mainline believer in God ( standard Christian faiths or Jew) I don't see a problem.
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