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Sahara
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 Posted: 10/03/04 - 12:20 Post subject: Rejected?
Is it easier to be the rejector or the rejectee at the end of a relationship? In other words, is it easier to break it off or to be dumped? Please give your experience.
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MechEngDropout
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Posted: 10/03/04 - 12:21 Post subject:
It's easier to be the rejector because typically you aren't happy with the situation. Being the rejected, it's hard to let go.
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Dancinghomer
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Posted: 10/03/04 - 12:44 Post subject:
I've been rejected a lot..it never feels good.
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Cappy
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Posted: 10/03/04 - 13:21 Post subject:
In my limited dating experience, I was the dumper. Professionaly I was rejected a number of times, which I always turned into a learning opportunity
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Ms. Jenn
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Posted: 10/03/04 - 15:09 Post subject:
| MechEngDropout wrote: | | It's easier to be the rejector because typically you aren't happy with the situation. Being the rejected, it's hard to let go. |
and I usually hold on for a long time. 
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copteacher
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Posted: 10/03/04 - 15:20 Post subject:
rejected too are always learning experiences
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andydp
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Posted: 10/03/04 - 19:46 Post subject:
I've had my share of being the rejectee. Not nice.
I only had to be the rejector once - it was a VERY difficult choice. I still feel bad about it.
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Posted: 10/03/04 - 20:40 Post subject:
Yeah, this is gonna hurt me a lot more than it's gonna hurt you. Sure.  I'll do the dumping.
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HighHeat
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Posted: 10/03/04 - 21:08 Post subject:
The toughest thing about being the rejector is picking which cliche to use...
Don't want to ruin our friendship
It's not you it's me
I've changed
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OK, so I exaggerate, but that's just how I am baby.
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kobyj
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Posted: 10/04/04 - 21:08 Post subject:
I've only been rejected. And I don't think that it was a full rejection since she did invite me to come to Iowa and visit her.
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keltic63
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Posted: 10/05/04 - 07:28 Post subject:
I think it is easier being the rejector because you know that you are taking control of the situation and doing what you feel is best for you, or for the relationship. That doesn't mean you'll feel great about it though.
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runaroundsue
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Posted: 10/05/04 - 10:17 Post subject:
I've never been good as the rejector........I was good as the avoider 
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purple hayes
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Posted: 10/05/04 - 10:24 Post subject:
Am I the only one in an arranged marriage?
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genie
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Posted: 10/05/04 - 10:34 Post subject:
For me it depends on the individual situation. Being the rejecTED is always difficult, because the term rejected in itself means it was not a mutual ending. Although I can say that one time (but not at band camp  ) it was more of a relief because I had thought about ending things anyway and he beat me to it. But then I guess that made it more mutual sorta.
Being the rejecTOR for me was hard on one occasion because the person was really, really into our relationship and I just wasn't. Lack of communication, I think, and therefore uncommunicated expectations on his part. I felt really bad about that because he was a nice guy, we just weren't compatible. Now, if the guy's an ass, no problem being the rejector because I know it's what is best for me (when I get to that point).
But what do YOU think, Sahara?
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HighHeat
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Posted: 10/05/04 - 10:38 Post subject:
| genie wrote: |
Being the rejecTOR for me was hard on one occasion because the person was really, really into our relationship and I just wasn't. Lack of communication, I think, and therefore uncommunicated expectations on his part. I felt really bad about that because he was a nice guy, we just weren't compatible. |
If you'd only told me that sooner, it wouldn't have been so difficult. 
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