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ShannonG
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 Posted: 08/24/05 - 17:18 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | | jrjo wrote: | All planned.
Is that so strange? It's not like we all don't know where babies come from!  |
I've never successfully reproduced.  |
So here's a question for PH; if the woman of your dreams hadn't already had children, would you have had children?
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airehead
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 19:29 Post subject:
Ours came about 10 years earlier than expected.
Sometimes life hands you great surprises.
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Floridaboiler
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 19:49 Post subject:
We both just felt the time was right. Nothing in particular jumped out at us as saying you are ready to do this. Granted Boilerette Jr. was a little of a surprise but we have handled it and love both of them.
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j1miller
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 20:22 Post subject:
The first was a surprise.... I was not ready.... The second, I was ready for and I was not surprised. He.... was surprised.... and not overly happy.
But, I adjusted and dothe best I can.... sometimes it's hard to be the grownup.... but I do it anyway.
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TOsteve
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 20:48 Post subject:
My wife and I both always wanted kids. When we got married we hoped to start having kids after about 4 years and fortunately for us we were able to start right on schedule.
Some of our closest friends have had kids in the past year or two and that has helped us to mentally prepare for the lifestyle change. But its true that nothing can really make you ready. I can honestly say that so far the blessings have outweighed the sacrifices by at least 100 to 1.
But what do I know, I'm only a 3 week old dad. 
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JUJR
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 21:30 Post subject:
We tried for 5 years before giving up....then we got pg  so, it was planned, but not. The second was actually planned  When #1 was 1yr old, I said we'd better start trying again...cause it could've taken another 5 years...(and I was already 37)...Uh...it didn't, right away boom #2. Then...bonus baby...definitely NOT planned...but she starts Preschool tomorrow and we love her soooooooooo much!  I had her at 39 and now I'M DONE......clip clip 
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monk25
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 21:46 Post subject:
Surprise, surprise and (drumroll please) SURPRISE (sort of) !!! 
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Noley
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 22:30 Post subject:
| monk25 wrote: | | Surprise, surprise and (drumroll please) SURPRISE (sort of) !!! |
I knew about that one...I knew about the other one...NOW ANOTHER ONE???
AWESOME...CONGRATS!
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monk25
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 22:33 Post subject:
| nolefan85 wrote: | | monk25 wrote: | | Surprise, surprise and (drumroll please) SURPRISE (sort of) !!! |
I knew that one...I knew the other one...NOW ANOTHER ONE???
AWESOME...CONGRATS!
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genie
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Posted: 08/24/05 - 23:42 Post subject:
WOO HOO!!!! Monk's gonna have another Monkette.......Monk Jr.....maybe two?
No really, that's awesome! Are you guys excited?
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purple hayes
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Posted: 08/25/05 - 05:36 Post subject:
| ShannonG wrote: | | purple hayes wrote: | | jrjo wrote: | All planned.
Is that so strange? It's not like we all don't know where babies come from! |
I've never successfully reproduced. |
So here's a question for PH; if the woman of your dreams hadn't already had children, would you have had children? |
Edited to add that if I did have kids, I'd have started early. I'm really looking forward to being <40 when my oldest goes to college.
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rolling rock
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Posted: 08/25/05 - 06:33 Post subject:
we were married 6 years and i was 29 before we decided to start a family. it took two months and i was pregnant. my son had health issues by age 2 and we decided that was it. by the time he was 4, we changed our minds about another child and it happened after one try.
both were planned and we were extremely lucky in our scheduling i guess. no problem there, that's for sure.
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DCRunningDiva
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Posted: 08/25/05 - 06:33 Post subject:
I have always wanted children but I had wanted to have them after being married for about 3-5 years. I got pregnant with my first on the second day of my honeymoon. I was pretty shocked when I found out I was pregnant. It took me about a week to adjust to it. There were so many things happening so quickly in my life at that time. After a year of complications from my first pregnancy we weren't sure we wanted a second child (third child for my DH). We went back and forth all the time. I remember crying when I gave away some of my sons baby stuff. It seemed so final.
Years later (six to be exact) we both came to the conclusion that it was a "now or never" situation (since I'll be 40 in December) and I truly wanted my son to grow up with another sibling. At first I was sort of doing it for him but later I realized that I really did still want another child.
So...during a boring Super Bowl....
Oh, wait....did I just say that outloud??? 
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akern
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Posted: 08/25/05 - 07:56 Post subject:
We've been planning for a bigger family but we're not having any luck in that department.I do have a wonderful step-daughter.She was expected since of course I new that the guy I was dating had a kid. Unexpected that I'd actually fall for, and marry some guy with a kid.
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cdnhollywood
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Posted: 08/25/05 - 08:14 Post subject:
We had our daughter after being married for nearly 11 years. Just wanted to do other things first.
At some point, we just felt it was the next move in our lives. "Finished school. Got a job. Travelled. Got the car and the house. Now what?"
As a guy, you don't realize how ready you are until you hit certain milestones:
seeing that first ultrasound
feeling that first kick
hearing that first cry
Being a dad for 14 months now, I laugh at myself for being as scared and nervous as I was. It's been the hardest, most stressful, most rewarding and absolute best thing to happen to me and my wife.
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