Parents, Please tell me this is a phase!!
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jrjo
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 Posted: 03/27/03 - 10:56 Post subject:
| Sahara wrote: | | I vote for "it's a phase". Appropriate discipline and providing time for her to open up if she needs to without it being obvious... do some coloring with her, plant some flowers, go for a walk, etc. |
I like Sahara's approach. Kids need quantity of time over quality of time. I'd add more low-key projects or activities for some one-on-one time with Mom and/or Dad. I think she'll open up and let you know the prob.
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keltic63
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 11:17 Post subject:
an as they pass from one phase they enter another!
my 15yo daughter absolutely hates us! I walked in the house last night, I didn't even have a chance to close the door (literally one foot in the house) and she hits me with "can I go over to Rachel's house?" no "Hi Daddy", no "how was your day?" I walked away, talked to my wife, who, being home with her for about an hour, had already had enough. We vetoed the visit to the friend's house. Cold shoulder for the evening.
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Cappy
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 12:06 Post subject:
| keltic63 wrote: | an as they pass from one phase they enter another!
my 15yo daughter absolutely hates us! I walked in the house last night, I didn't even have a chance to close the door (literally one foot in the house) and she hits me with "can I go over to Rachel's house?" no "Hi Daddy", no "how was your day?" I walked away, talked to my wife, who, being home with her for about an hour, had already had enough. We vetoed the visit to the friend's house. Cold shoulder for the evening. |
This won't happen to my little girl....right?
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keltic63
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 12:23 Post subject:
| Cappy wrote: | | keltic63 wrote: | an as they pass from one phase they enter another!
my 15yo daughter absolutely hates us! I walked in the house last night, I didn't even have a chance to close the door (literally one foot in the house) and she hits me with "can I go over to Rachel's house?" no "Hi Daddy", no "how was your day?" I walked away, talked to my wife, who, being home with her for about an hour, had already had enough. We vetoed the visit to the friend's house. Cold shoulder for the evening. |
This won't happen to my little girl....right? |
wait til she gets her monthly visitor, your little girl totally changes!
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airehead
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 12:24 Post subject:
| keltic63 wrote: | | Cappy wrote: | | keltic63 wrote: | an as they pass from one phase they enter another!
my 15yo daughter absolutely hates us! I walked in the house last night, I didn't even have a chance to close the door (literally one foot in the house) and she hits me with "can I go over to Rachel's house?" no "Hi Daddy", no "how was your day?" I walked away, talked to my wife, who, being home with her for about an hour, had already had enough. We vetoed the visit to the friend's house. Cold shoulder for the evening. |
This won't happen to my little girl....right? |
wait til she gets her monthly visitor, your little girl totally changes! |
Yeah, those Visa/Mastercard bills can be a real pain in the @ss for us women!!!
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purple hayes
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 12:37 Post subject:
| airehead wrote: | | Yeah, those Visa/Mastercard bills can be a real pain in the @ss for us women!!! |
Hiding it from your husband is probably the toughest part. 
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akern
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 12:38 Post subject:
| airehead wrote: | | keltic63 wrote: | | Cappy wrote: | | keltic63 wrote: | an as they pass from one phase they enter another!
my 15yo daughter absolutely hates us! I walked in the house last night, I didn't even have a chance to close the door (literally one foot in the house) and she hits me with "can I go over to Rachel's house?" no "Hi Daddy", no "how was your day?" I walked away, talked to my wife, who, being home with her for about an hour, had already had enough. We vetoed the visit to the friend's house. Cold shoulder for the evening. |
This won't happen to my little girl....right? |
wait til she gets her monthly visitor, your little girl totally changes! |
Yeah, those Visa/Mastercard bills can be a real pain in the @ss for us women!!! |
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airehead
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 12:39 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | | airehead wrote: | | Yeah, those Visa/Mastercard bills can be a real pain in the @ss for us women!!! |
Hiding it from your husband is probably the toughest part. |
Yeah, and that's when our real mood swings hit! We start to be nice as pie...
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ShannonG
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 13:10 Post subject:
I just had to say that I really, REALLY like your consequence of her having to give all of her YuGiO cards to the kid she stole one from. Very appropriate, considering the circumstances.
Will it make you feel better to be told that this too, shall pass? I am looking after a nearly seven year old girl whose latest phase is to be anxious all the time, about everything.
Too often we try to justify our childrens' behavior when it is in fact just normal development. Annoying, but normal.
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omega lambda
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 13:17 Post subject:
Akern, how aware of current events is she? Perhaps she is feeling a lot of stress/fear/anxiety etc., and doesn't even know why. I know I'm not my usual self lately.
Also, was the behavior change after a visit with her other mom? There may be some issues there that she is having trouble dealing with.
I think you are a wonderful mom and you are doing the right thing. Hang in there!
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Cappy
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 13:30 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | | airehead wrote: | | Yeah, those Visa/Mastercard bills can be a real pain in the @ss for us women!!! |
Hiding it from your husband is probably the toughest part. |
He's a Germany now so its real easy
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akern
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 13:35 Post subject:
| Cappy wrote: | | purple hayes wrote: | | airehead wrote: | | Yeah, those Visa/Mastercard bills can be a real pain in the @ss for us women!!! |
Hiding it from your husband is probably the toughest part. |
He's a Germany now so its real easy |
Stop calling him names!!
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genie
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Posted: 03/27/03 - 15:44 Post subject:
| Sahara wrote: | | I vote for "it's a phase". Appropriate discipline and providing time for her to open up if she needs to without it being obvious... do some coloring with her, plant some flowers, go for a walk, etc. |
I agree. If she's the type that would express herself if someone did something to her, then it might just be a phase.....or if not, maybe just some Mom/daughter time together without actually asking her what's going on might make her comfortable enough to talk.
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