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akern
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 Posted: 10/28/02 - 13:02 Post subject: My morning so far...
What a monday!! I'm at work 10 minutes and get a call from the school nurse. Nichole doesn't feel good. No temp, but has a headache and tummy ache. I ask the nurse do I need to come get her? She reasons that Nichole hasn't ever been to her office before. Ok I'll come get her.
Get to school and go to her class to get her. Her teacher the snack nazi wants to talk to me. She says Nichole did a great job on her report card, (she got all A's) , great in class, but sometimes has a slight problem getting along with others. She said it wasn't a major problem but thought thats why Nichole wanted to come home. She even went so far as to say maybe Nichole needed to see a counseler. I'm not exactly sure what the problem is. Teacher said she just wants Nichole to be happy with herself.
 I'm kinda freakin now. Is it the norm nowdays for kids to see the coulselor often? Then I think am I screwing her up? Is the teacher just overzealous?
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monk25
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 13:11 Post subject:
Sounds normal to me. Kids go through that, especially kids that are more mature/intelligent than their peers. Your daughter will be fine. I don't think having your daughter go to a counseler is necessarily a bad thing, though.
sidebar- I knew all the counselers in my schools by their first names. I think they had me go because my father died when I was 10, and they felt I needed it. I was your typical underachiever, which I don't think had anything to do with my father.
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runswithscissors
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 13:12 Post subject:
Sounds a bit odd to me as well. Did you talk to your daughter about it? The whole counceling thing goes hand in hand with the ridilin thing, I think. Only time I remember ever seeing a councelor was in high school when I started looking at colleges. Seems like these days every kid that is just 'a little different' either has to be counceled or put on drugs. Give me a break. Good luck, Akern. Find out what's on her mind.
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copteacher
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 13:15 Post subject:
teacher how much experience
seems like an interesting observation
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keltic63
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 13:19 Post subject:
I've used the school guidance counselors with good success. so here's what I recommend: YOU call the counselor and express your concerns, including that you think the teacher is a little nuts (well don't say it that way, but you know what I mean) Ask the counselor to speak with your daughter and find out what's going on. And it really could be that she is bored. The counselor should be able to help out here, maybe recommend testing for a gifted program if she's not already placed.
good luck
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 13:25 Post subject:
How does she interact with friends outside of class.
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akern
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 13:28 Post subject:
I don't know if she's bored. Her teacher has been teaching for 20 years. Just because she is the snack nazi doesn't mean I'm discounting what she has to say. I asked Nichole if she was upset about something. She said her friend Lily's other friends didn't want to be her friend. Naturally she is bummed but didn't we all go through this stuff? I remember having spats with my friends as a child I never had low self-esteem because of it.
I don't think the spat was why she wanted to come home. She really doesn't look like she feels well.
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jrjo
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 13:36 Post subject:
A slight problem getting along with others?? Put 30 kids together for 7 hours a day and is there anyway they are going to all get along? What is a "slight problem"? To me it all sounds like the school counselor trying to justify their job by getting teachers to refer kids. Unless your daughter is making a real disruption or you notice some very unusual behavior, I wouldn't go for the counseling. Do you know who this counselor is? What kind of background and values are they going to present as "normal"? I'm a huge skeptic. And if she did talk with the counselor, I'd be there every minute of it. What do you really know about this person? Like Randy says about the ridlin thing, sometimes kids just gotta be left to be kids.
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akern
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 14:01 Post subject:
No way would I let her be put on Ridlin. I don't know if any kid needs to be on it. It's probably nothing to worry about. This is just my first go round with a kid in school.
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 14:02 Post subject:
| keltic63 wrote: | I've used the school guidance counselors with good success. so here's what I recommend: YOU call the counselor and express your concerns, including that you think the teacher is a little nuts (well don't say it that way, but you know what I mean) Ask the counselor to speak with your daughter and find out what's going on. And it really could be that she is bored. The counselor should be able to help out here, maybe recommend testing for a gifted program if she's not already placed.
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I totally agree with Keltic. Our oldest is in gifted and when she was in kindergarten the teacher noticed that she was having problems getting along, but she also noticed how bright she was and that maybe she needed tested. Well, long story short, she scored very high and was placed in the gifted program, and now is with kids she is more compatible with in class. So, talking with a counselor is a good thing I think..
Just my 
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 14:11 Post subject:
Akern,
i'm on the side with Keltic and Pebbles here. i would not ignore the teacher's request for counseling. first, i would try to draw it out of her myself. I'd push her a little to share it with you. then, i'd call the counselor or teacher for more info-- she may just be happier in an accelerated program.
20 years of teaching means something, even though she is the snack nazi. i am really surprised that she jumped into this subject when she saw you today. i'd would have thought she would have called you to request a conference -- but whatever.
good luck with her. girls are such social animals, even in 1st grade.
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keltic63
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 14:40 Post subject:
| rolling rock wrote: |
20 years of teaching means something, even though she is the snack nazi. i am really surprised that she jumped into this subject when she saw you today. i'd would have thought she would have called you to request a conference -- but whatever.
good luck with her. girls are such social animals, even in 1st grade. |
20 years of teaching MAY mean something, or it could be 20 years of bad teaching. we've got that here in my buildings. the red flag for me was when the teacher brought it up with you as you came to pick up your sick daughter. that is not the time nor the place. you should be having conferences soon, I would suspect. that would be a good time to talk about it. they are social, even in 1st grade. that only gets worse; but they forget quickly and new best friends are made every few days.
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 14:42 Post subject:
| keltic63 wrote: | | they are social, even in 1st grade. that only gets worse; but they forget quickly and new best friends are made every few days. |
My daughter in 6th rotates through a cycle of best friends on a weekly basis. Girls can be cruel. 
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monk25
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 14:47 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | | My daughter in 6th rotates through a cycle of best friends on a weekly basis. Girls can be cruel. |
Hearing this stuff makes me want to cry  I can't bare the thought of Isabella going through that! She is only 16 months I know, but still!
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keltic63
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Posted: 10/28/02 - 15:07 Post subject:
| monk25 wrote: | | purple hayes wrote: | | My daughter in 6th rotates through a cycle of best friends on a weekly basis. Girls can be cruel. |
Hearing this stuff makes me want to cry I can't bare the thought of Isabella going through that! She is only 16 months I know, but still! |
she may not only be on the receiving end, but likely to be on the giving end too. My 15yo daughter told me yesterday that she will kiss boys on the cheek, in front of her boyfriend, just to make him mad. I told her that's just cruel. and I know that she has been on both ends of that best friend thing that happens when they are in elementary school.
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