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genie
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 Posted: 02/20/03 - 11:49 Post subject: May/December romances
For those of you unfamiliar with the term, it basically means one partner is considerably older than the other--either or--your thoughts on these? I don't mean like a 5-year difference, but a considerable one. Why is it that the older man/younger woman type is so much more "acceptable" than the older woman/younger man? (This has the makings of a very interesting sociology project)
Would you ever consider either, assuming that you were single now? Why or why not?
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 11:52 Post subject: Re: May/December romances
| genie wrote: | | Would you ever consider either, assuming that you were single now? Why or why not? |
I've told you before that I'm married. Stop hitting on me. 
Mrs. Hayes is 8.5 years older than I am.
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 11:56 Post subject: Re: May/December romances
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I've told you before that I'm married. Stop hitting on me.
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Ummm... I don't know if I could date a woman 5 years older than me. (She'd have to be really immature.)
I could probably date someone five years younger than me though.
(I am really immature.)
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camelia bedelia
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 11:57 Post subject: Re: May/December romances
| genie wrote: | Why is it that the older man/younger woman type is so much more "acceptable" than the older woman/younger man? (This has the makings of a very interesting sociology project)
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Because in our not too distant past, men went out and established themselves so they could afford a wife, who would stay home and make babies. Older men = money and stability, younger woman = good baby makers. The opposite didn't hold true. Things change slowly.
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genie
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 11:57 Post subject: Re: May/December romances
| purple hayes wrote: | | genie wrote: | | Would you ever consider either, assuming that you were single now? Why or why not? |
I've told you before that I'm married. Stop hitting on me.
Mrs. Hayes is 8.5 years older than I am. |
Damn, am I that transparent? I guess most of y'all mens here could say that....you're like ALL younger than I am (except EL)
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:01 Post subject:
Well, I've dated a guy that was like 9 years younger, and you know Larry is 8 years older than I am. Interestingly enough, he seems to get more "kudos" from his friends if you will, for lack of a better term,or did when we were first dating about this hot young chick (their words, not mine, and I am sure there was alcohol involved). I don't really see myself that way. However, I have noticed that when an older guy walks into a room with a younger woman, he (and they as a couple) attract more positive attention then a similar in age couple or a younger man/older woman.
All I ever got from my friends when I dated a younger guy was a bunch of crap about an early mid-life crisis and couldn't I find one that was old enough to shave. And I'd get looks from people too when I went to watch him play (he was a jazz musician) and they realized we were together. Nt many, but there were always a few idiots.
I don't know why there is a stigma when the roles are reversed. I certainly notice it, though.
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:04 Post subject:
M is 3.5 years younger. We never notice the difference. Even when he's being an immature d!ckhead, it doesn't occur to me that it is age. We grew up together, so we don't think of it.
Mostly, even though I tell all the bad stuff so it doesn't seem like it, he is mature and sweet & I'm glad he's mine.
Of course, 3.5 years does not a May/December romance make. I have no opinion of it, really, for men older/woman younger or the other way around, except on an individual basis, if I know the couple. Everyone's different, and there are no rules. Thank God.
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:09 Post subject:
Mr Poky is 3.5 yrs younger than I in age, but 10.5 yrs in maturity.
I'm to each his own as far as age difference, but
Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas are 
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:16 Post subject:
I think that about a 10 year age difference is relatively unnoticeable, either way. But 15 to 20 years or more tends to make a difference, especially later on. There's a pretty big difference between 40 and 60, 50 and 70, 60 and 80. I think relationships start to suffer as the couple gets older, but then the difference diminishes as they age even further. At least it used to be this way. A man in his 60's will start having health problems, especially age related problems, but his 40 year wife is still in her prime. Or vice versa, of course. Perhaps, as people take better care of themselves, and medical science advances, this is not as true as it used to be.
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:23 Post subject:
the MR is 2.5 years younger than me.....but maturity-wise (believe it or not) is so WAY older than me!
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:24 Post subject: Older women
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genie
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:29 Post subject:
 at jrjo.....
This was the subject of a debate at school last night so I thought I'd throw it out to you. I have done the older man thing several times, but never the other way around, probably for a lot of the reasons Kristin said....judgment, prejudice, etc.
OL, if I may...how would you relate your aging theory to the other side...older woman/younger man? I agree with what you said about the men but I hadn't thought about it in context of the opposite, having always been horrified at the thought. I know men tend to want younger models as they themselves age, an ego thing? Or am I just generalizing?
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:30 Post subject:
I know I have always found men in their 40's-50's a great age group. Even when I was 20 I always found older men more attractive. Maybe it's because they were done with the BS the college boys weren't.
I've always attributed my attraction to that age group as an attraction to stability, maturity, and HAIR LOSS! (I love a bald guy/receeding hairline)
I have no problem with it either way. In fact I like seeing an older woman with a younger guy.
What I do resent is the guy who dumps his wife for a younger girl. 
Now in reality, I married a guy 2 years older than me--but way ahead of me in maturity and stability.
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camelia bedelia
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:30 Post subject:
| pokychick wrote: | Mr Poky is 3.5 yrs younger than I in age, but 10.5 yrs in maturity.
I'm to each his own as far as age difference, but
Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas are |
If Catherine and Michael make you , I had to see how you react to Anna Nicole Smith and her dearly departed hubby.
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Posted: 02/20/03 - 12:34 Post subject:
| camelia bedelia wrote: | | If Catherine and Michael make you , I had to see how you react to Anna Nicole Smith and her dearly departed hubby. |
But Anna Nicole Smith and her dearly departed were truly in love and
it was so sweet to watch. She was just so devastated when he died,
it broke my heart. did I just type all that
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