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Noley
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 Posted: 09/30/03 - 16:10 Post subject: Kill people with kindness
Do you kill people with kindness when they are flat out rude to you?
Every Tuesday and Thursday morning before my swim, I go to the corner store for a drink. Every single time I go in I get snubbed by the lady who works there.
Me: "Good morning", as I enter
Her: Nothing
Me: Get drink and go to counter. Smile  Say, "How are you doing today?"
Her: Turns the head and ignores me
Me: Pay and say, "Have a nice day".
Her: Says nothing and glares.
WTF?  I know I look bad as I roll in there at 5am, but what's up with that?
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shelflifers
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 16:16 Post subject:
The same goes with the cleaning ladies here...I'm always cheery and saying hi...sometimes...i repeate SOMETIMES...they grunt back...
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Happy2tri
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 16:19 Post subject:
niceness kills!!!!!
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copteacher
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 16:26 Post subject:
In my job, taking the nicer guy route works very well most times even when people are absolute ass clowns
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Laurie Ellen
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 16:33 Post subject:
Being nasty back just makes them feel justified for randomly hating you and treating you like crap.
If I'm nice/apologetic I disconcert them. Sometimes they get nicer. Sometimes they don't. But at least I didn't give them satisfaction for their bad attitude.
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Noley
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 16:48 Post subject:
Don't worry. I'll continue to be nice and smile 
I wonder if it's the conflicting Nike bathing suit and the Reebok flip flops that I wear that has her all in a tiff? Or no...it's my FSU hat? That's what it must be! 
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brie k
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:22 Post subject:
I'd love to say that I always kill with kindness, but some people do have me muttering under my breath. It happens. But usually I try to be the better person. Usually.
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blue
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:26 Post subject:
what if i'm genuinely kind, and then curse under my breath when i leave?
i usually maintain a smile while cursing.
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Laurie Ellen
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:28 Post subject:
| blue wrote: | what if i'm genuinely kind, and then curse under my breath when i leave?
i usually maintain a smile while cursing. |
You just SO reminded me of that movie Point of No Return. Remember Anne Bancroft making Bridget Fonda smile and say "I never did mind about the little things"? Scary!
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TimRuns
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:29 Post subject:
act all nice and curse them under my breath
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thegman
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:31 Post subject: Re: Kill people with kindness
| nolefan85 wrote: | Do you kill people with kindness when they are flat out rude to you?
Every Tuesday and Thursday morning before my swim, I go to the corner store for a drink. Every single time I go in I get snubbed by the lady who works there.
Me: "Good morning", as I enter
Her: Nothing
Me: Get drink and go to counter. Smile Say, "How are you doing today?"
Her: Turns the head and ignores me
Me: Pay and say, "Have a nice day".
Her: Says nothing and glares.
WTF? I know I look bad as I roll in there at 5am, but what's up with that? |
Why do you continue to give them your business?
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Noley
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:35 Post subject: Re: Kill people with kindness
| thegman wrote: | | nolefan85 wrote: | Do you kill people with kindness when they are flat out rude to you?
Every Tuesday and Thursday morning before my swim, I go to the corner store for a drink. Every single time I go in I get snubbed by the lady who works there.
Me: "Good morning", as I enter
Her: Nothing
Me: Get drink and go to counter. Smile Say, "How are you doing today?"
Her: Turns the head and ignores me
Me: Pay and say, "Have a nice day".
Her: Says nothing and glares.
WTF? I know I look bad as I roll in there at 5am, but what's up with that? |
Why do you continue to give them your business? |
The guy who owns it. Cool. Friendly. Always says hello. Not there in the am.
This lady? Don't know how her winning personality keeps her in that job. Everyone else is great! I really think it's me. I really do.
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omega lambda
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:37 Post subject:
It depends. If I don't know them, I give them the benefit of the doubt and try to be kind, or at the very least neutral, regardless of their behavior. If I know them to be cruel, unkind or mean-spirited, I ignore them.
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brie k
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:40 Post subject: Re: Kill people with kindness
| nolefan85 wrote: | | I really think it's me. I really do. |
Shut. Up. You know, even on your worst day (or at 5am, whatever) you are prettier and nicer than she could ever be on her best day. That's her prob.
Really. She's a hag and hates you because you're not a hag. Build a bridge and move on. She's not worth your time.
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Noley
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Posted: 09/30/03 - 17:48 Post subject: Re: Kill people with kindness
| brie k wrote: | | nolefan85 wrote: | | I really think it's me. I really do. |
Shut. Up. You know, even on your worst day (or at 5am, whatever) you are prettier and nicer than she could ever be on her best day. That's her prob.
Really. She's a hag and hates you because you're not a hag. Build a bridge and move on. She's not worth your time. |
I wasn't going to say it. You did!
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