Kids & the internet... Libby posts at school
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airehead
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 Posted: 05/12/06 - 11:53 Post subject:
Aire Jr is only allowed internet when we're at home and in the room with him.
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brie k
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Posted: 05/12/06 - 14:03 Post subject:
Well, I did see her teacher and he is going to block both quizilla and fanfiction from the school's computers. He said to email him with additional sites to block if I happen upon them. I do not know why this site is getting through the filter, and neither does he. He did explain that the kids probably know more than most of the people at school.
Libby doesn't have messenger, and won't for a while. The things that upset me the most are just her foul language, which is never necessary, not even for adults for that matter, and the fact that she said she and Shelby "got drunk" over spring break when we lived there. I think this is a lie, just Libby trying to be a bigshot, but I am not sure. So this will be discussed this evening as well. I've also been discussing all of this with Kramer, so he is very aware of it before the kids go to Charlotte this summer. I am hopeful that he will create accounts for the kids on his computers and make sure that they have limited access. And after Christmas and her latest talk about what she and Shelby did, I've explained that Libby isn't to spend the night at Shelby's, nor is she to be over there when Kelly (the idiot mom) is not home. Not that her being home actually means anything. I wish I did not have to let my kids go there. Kramer is just not as strict as I am, and if he is not home, he cannot know what they are doing. Scary.
It's hard being a parent these days. I have so much more to worry about than my parents did.
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MechEngDropout
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Posted: 05/12/06 - 15:22 Post subject:
 It shouldn't happen. Kids shouldn't be able to surf the internet at all during school. But it happens. In my keyboarding class, we'd get the one guy who was an amazing typist (115 wpm) to copy the assignment to the network, then we'd all download it, print it, turn it in. After that work was done, you could do whatever you want. We played Quake3.
I think it's a hard balance between crushing their freedom and protecting them. And it only gets worse because we let kids grow up with this being a part of their life - computer games, console games, cell phones - they're all basically the same evil.
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Posted: 05/12/06 - 15:42 Post subject:
We have the same issues at our house with the boyz who are now 17 and 14. My 17 yr old is girl crazy so when I found he was looking at and storing porn pix on our computer I was pist, but not totally shocked. When he wasted an entire ink cartridge printing the smut and hiding it in his room I jacked his ass up though.  Enough is enough. He hasn't done it since.
But my 14 yr. old straight A/model student son started to use messenger a few months ago. I was absolutely shocked to find my sweet little boy had the screen name VIOLENT J. WTF???  This boy is prolly the biggest wuss in his school.  They do show off online I know it. Sometimes I hate the internet too.  Parenting is by far the hardest job I have ever taken on. But also the most rewarding. Tough times.
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brie k
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Posted: 05/12/06 - 17:21 Post subject:
Well, you are right Mech, this is a part of their lives. I don't want to crush her freedom, but really, the internet does not have to be a freedom thing. She is naive, she is a silly girl at times, and thoughtless at other times. I have to protect her from herself as much as I have to protect her from all the wackos -- online, at school, in the community. It is so scary to parent a child in times like these.
We had a talk, and while she is totally pissed that I look at her stuff (in fairness, I DID tell her I would be watching everything she does when she first got the computer) and did not realize just how much I can see in her computer. I explained screen shots to her, and told her that there isn't anything she types that I won't have the capability to see. A lot of people have said not to tell her this, but the thing is, I don't want her to misbehave. I don't want her to try to get away with something. I want her to start being responsible. I also want to get it through her head that she needs to respect herself enough to not misrepresent who she really is. Drinking isn't cool, being a hardass isn't cool. Being a nice girl is where it is at, and we do not need to swear to be cool. Or lie to be cool. People will like you for who you are, and if they don't, then you don't need them anyway.
At any rate, she is not happy that I got rid of the fanfic website, but she does seem to understand why I am concerned. And she will clean up her language or she won't be on the internet.
She also swears she only said she was drinking because the other posters were talking about what they did, and we had a long talk about my being able to trust her. I told her to share her thoughts with people, talk about the family/friends/music/other interests, but be real about who she is, and don't give misleading and inappropriate information. Also, never reveal our city -- I told her that the midwest is about as identifying as she ever needs to get.
So we will see what happens from here. I want her to be able to communicate with people with like interests. I love that I can come here, and I want her to have that too, but in a safe way. We'll just take it one day at a time and I will continue to emphasize safety and common sense to her.
Thanks for all your feedback on this. I appreciate your thoughts and perspectives.
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msparks
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Posted: 05/12/06 - 17:21 Post subject:
| JACKED UP wrote: | | I jacked his ass up though. |
Aha! So...the name isn't just for show, it's a way of life!!
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Ms. Jenn
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Posted: 05/12/06 - 23:42 Post subject:
My daughter likes to watch the Today show with my husband in the mornings. They had a preview of the Dateline show about the predators online and she watched that story and was genuinely scared about talking to strangers on the internet and what happens when you tell them where you live.
She hasn't been on the computer since and that was just the preview, not the actual dateline episode. I think you should let Libby see those episodes. It's shocking.
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Noley
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Posted: 05/13/06 - 13:34 Post subject:
The only internet usage that I'm allowed to permit my students to use at school are teacher guided/directed websites. Meaning...I have to approve and use it as instruction.
So, when I did state reports with my class...the kids had to use the websites bookmarked for them. Otherwise they cannot surf. I like that policy. I haven't had a problem with it. Most of my students are using the computers for assessments they have to take and Accelerated Reading (A.R.) tests on literature. That keeps the computers busy all of the time with them testing on books whenever they finish them.
My own children...no usage at school internet wise. They make power point presentations and write stories there.
At home...I'm in the same room as them. I have a smaller house and can see what they are looking at. That's one benefit to having tight quarters.
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