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brie k
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 Posted: 10/05/06 - 19:01 Post subject: I had to testify in court yesterday...
Have you done this? Well, it sucked out loud. I felt extremely violated after we were done. The most emotionally draining 45 minutes of my life.
This was for JMs custody modification. His entire family was there to support us, but this was the first time I got to meet anyone, and they get to watch me being raked over the coals by a real pr!ck of a defense atty. Seriously, I am certain this guy is a d!ck in real life. I had to disclose intimate details with them listening, and it was not a fun experience.
And of course the hearing isn't over. Two dates set for November. We may know the disposition of it by the end of the year. I hope. My part is over and I'm glad for that, but JM and M still have to endure it.
I keep second-guessing what I said, but JM is very proud of me, and his family was impressed that I was able to keep my cool. I tried to be uncharacteristically me, you know, quiet and subdued. LOL. I evidently succeeded, even though I was fairly certain I got pissed there towards the end. JM said it came off as being upset, and I guess he would know since he's seen me pissed!
I didn't even go to class today because I'm so wiped out emotionally. I'll probably look back on it and not feel so awful about it, but right now I'm still wrapping my head around it. I hope he is granted custody, because then it will all be worth it.
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airehead
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Posted: 10/05/06 - 19:56 Post subject:
Man, that sounds rough!! 
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Posted: 10/05/06 - 20:05 Post subject:
 That had to be hard.  It amazes me how emotional situations physically drain a person.  Sorry you had to go through this.
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Posted: 10/05/06 - 20:58 Post subject:
| JACKED UP wrote: | | That had to be hard. It amazes me how emotional situations physically drain a person. Sorry you had to go through this. |
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Posted: 10/05/06 - 21:01 Post subject:
I'm sorry you had to go through it. I'd hate to be on the stand.
I've seen it first hand, brie, because I've been that guy. But the reason I don't do family work is because it isn't "just business" - it's personal.
Several years ago I had the glorious opportunity to cross examine a witness who was directly responsible for a rather sizeable financial loss for my client. Opposing counsel did a particularly poor job of prepping her.
It was the longest 30 minutes of her life, and I enjoyed every. minute. of. it. Opposing counsel had been too reluctant to negotiate, and I was happy to tear her up.
After 20 minutes of testimony, she was in tears. The judge called a recess.
Her testimony concluded with her standing up, throwing her hands in the air, and tearfully shouting, "You're right, I didn't know what the hell I was doing!" She walked off the stand and out of the courtroom in very dramatic fashion. I couldn't have scripted it any better for the jury.
I may not look like much, but I'll gut you before you realize what's happening. I'm not doing my job if I don't.
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Posted: 10/05/06 - 21:18 Post subject:
| thegman wrote: | | I may not look like much, but I'll gut you before you realize what's happening. I'm not doing my job if I don't. |
Were you at least wearing the lucky suit 
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brie k
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Posted: 10/05/06 - 21:30 Post subject:
| thegman wrote: | I'm sorry you had to go through it. I'd hate to be on the stand.
I've seen it first hand, brie, because I've been that guy. But the reason I don't do family work is because it isn't "just business" - it's personal.
Several years ago I had the glorious opportunity to cross examine a witness who was directly responsible for a rather sizeable financial loss for my client. Opposing counsel did a particularly poor job of prepping her.
It was the longest 30 minutes of her life, and I enjoyed every. minute. of. it. Opposing counsel had been too reluctant to negotiate, and I was happy to tear her up.
After 20 minutes of testimony, she was in tears. The judge called a recess.
Her testimony concluded with her standing up, throwing her hands in the air, and tearfully shouting, "You're right, I didn't know what the hell I was doing!" She walked off the stand and out of the courtroom in very dramatic fashion. I couldn't have scripted it any better for the jury.
I may not look like much, but I'll gut you before you realize what's happening. I'm not doing my job if I don't. |
Well, I doubt you're as big a d!ck as this guy. Ok, maybe you are, but I like you. 
I know he was just doing his job. I get that. It still just really hurts when you have to be on the receiving end. And the thing is, Ms mom really is a BAD mom. I'm not saying that because JM is mine and he wants his daughter. I'm saying it because M has shown me pictures of what she lives in (filth, with loaded guns lying about), how her mother works her to death on the farm and she doesn't get to be a kid, and how the step-dad says mean things and even pushed her down a few weeks ago. M wants to live with JM. I believe that with all my heart, and as an almost 15 year old, I think she should have a say, sooner rather than later.
He may be doing his job, but he is doing his job for a really bad person. I think that's what upsets me the most, that M has to go through any of this. And now, with the continuance, she has to live with this wretch of a mom who has heard some very damning things that her daughter has conveyed to me.
It's probably silly for me to even be thinking "poor me" because it is in no shape or form about me. I was just wiped out over it. And I'd do it again, even knowing what I know now, because that's what you do for people you love.
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Posted: 10/05/06 - 21:41 Post subject:
For the good of the little girl, that's what it's about and you'll find the energy from that. Good for you Brie.
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