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Earlyrunnr
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 Posted: 02/27/03 - 15:50 Post subject: How to deal with teenagers?!!
My 14 year old daughter is really driving me crazy...a big attitude change all of a sudden. She is a straight A student, but is suddenly into make-up, hair highlights..etc. Her teachers tell me they notice a big attitude change, not so much verbally, but body language, like she has put a wall...we have noticed this at home.. Anyone with experience on this subject? She just thinks we are stupid parents picking on her. HELP!
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 15:51 Post subject:
Don't tell me they do not stay young and sweet forever. I am in denial.
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 15:54 Post subject:
| rtpd113 wrote: | | Don't tell me they do not stay young and sweet forever. I am in denial. |
 
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pokychick
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 15:54 Post subject:
| rtpd113 wrote: | | Don't tell me they do not stay young and sweet forever. I am in denial. |
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Earlyrunnr
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 15:55 Post subject:
oh God! you just wait! Your kids are so sweet and cute now(by the pics they are!)m but when the hormones kick in, watch out!
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 15:58 Post subject:
Show them that you care, but stand fast for what you believe in. At 14, they're only beginning to act up.
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Earlyrunnr
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:00 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | | Show them that you care, but stand fast for what you believe in. At 14, they're only beginning to act up. |
That was some her teachers suggestions-they say she is experimenting with who she is, that we should let her experiement within our limits---but I find out that the baggy sweatshirt she wears to school is taken off to reveal a belly revealing shirt!
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:05 Post subject:
| Earlyrunnr wrote: | | purple hayes wrote: | | Show them that you care, but stand fast for what you believe in. At 14, they're only beginning to act up. |
That was some her teachers suggestions-they say she is experimenting with who she is, that we should let her experiement within our limits---but I find out that the baggy sweatshirt she wears to school is taken off to reveal a belly revealing shirt! |
Dang Brittney Spears for ever starting that trend! I hate those belly shirts.
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:07 Post subject:
| Earlyrunnr wrote: | | purple hayes wrote: | | Show them that you care, but stand fast for what you believe in. At 14, they're only beginning to act up. |
That was some her teachers suggestions-they say she is experimenting with who she is, that we should let her experiement within our limits---but I find out that the baggy sweatshirt she wears to school is taken off to reveal a belly revealing shirt! |
 Typical teen. Don't freak, but don't let her get away with it. Be firm but fair, let her know what the rules are and keep to them.
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:13 Post subject:
We've been through this 3 times. Right now, what you're saying all sounds incredibly normal to me. Keep talking to her, let her experiment a little (within your bounds, but be willing to listen and bend a little), and as long as her grades stay up, don't worry!
My son changed very gradually, but with the girls it seemed as though it was overnight. Like someone flipped a switch on their backs. My nieces did the same thing. I'm pretty sure it is normal.
And oh by the way, my youngest is now 18, and everything turned out great.
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:16 Post subject:
Well, do you remember being that age and rebelling at all? I know it's easy for me to ask this because I don't have kids, but what would have worked on you at that stage? Will that help maybe?
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Earlyrunnr
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:16 Post subject:
| omega lambda wrote: | We've been through this 3 times. Right now, what you're saying all sounds incredibly normal to me. Keep talking to her, let her experiment a little (within your bounds, but be willing to listen and bend a little), and as long as her grades stay up, don't worry!
My son changed very gradually, but with the girls it seemed as though it was overnight. Like someone flipped a switch on their backs. My nieces did the same thing. I'm pretty sure it is normal.
And oh by the way, my youngest is now 18, and everything turned out great. |
Stories like this keep me hopeful! But man oh man, every day is struggle!
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:22 Post subject:
| kristin31 wrote: | | Well, do you remember being that age and rebelling at all? I know it's easy for me to ask this because I don't have kids, but what would have worked on you at that stage? Will that help maybe? |
The thing is, my husand and I were brought up totally opposite...my parents never questioned me, always let me do what I wanted to do, were never involved with my life(they were both alcoholics) but I was very conservative, and never did anything bad....my husband's parents were very protective, and every chance his brothers and sisters got to rebel, they did(several were in for drug rehab and anorexia), so we come from total different back grounds, I say to loosen up,and he's all over her for everything...there has to be a happy medium some where.......and for Brittney Spears....I could kill her right now!
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:22 Post subject:
OH YIKES!! My 14 yo son is staring at those belly shirts all day---then he comes home and "grunts" in my general direction.
this is where the fun begins. wow. set limits - clearly. let her know where you stand on all this like," totally" stuff. Is she wearing lots of bracelets?????? You wouldn't believe what i heard about this recently  I thought they were just bracelets........
girls strike out in such different ways than boys. girls definitely have more "stuff" to experiment with (hair, clothes, makeup, MALL) i have all that to look forward to with #2 child.
she is testing...almost asking you to tell her what she can and can not get away with. be loving and firm and clear as a bell. at least that what i'm doing with solemn boy.
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Posted: 02/27/03 - 16:25 Post subject:
| rolling rock wrote: | OH YIKES!! My 14 yo son is staring at those belly shirts all day---then he comes home and "grunts" in my general direction.
this is where the fun begins. wow. set limits - clearly. let her know where you stand on all this like," totally" stuff. Is she wearing lots of bracelets?????? You wouldn't believe what i heard about this recently I thought they were just bracelets........
girls strike out in such different ways than boys. girls definitely have more "stuff" to experiment with (hair, clothes, makeup, MALL) i have all that to look forward to with #2 child.
she is testing...almost asking you to tell her what she can and can not get away with. be loving and firm and clear as a bell. at least that what i'm doing with solemn boy. |
I have a son in 5th grade...I can only imagine what will go through his mind in a few years when he finally notices girls....what is it with the bracelts?
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