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 Posted: 12/17/02 - 12:03 Post subject:
Well, the "invitation" for the rest of us is posted on a cork board in the break room.
I'm thinking card only on this one.
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spongebob
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 12:04 Post subject:
Ask robp. His friends have the best gift ideas.
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 12:11 Post subject:
| Erstwhile Lurker wrote: | Well, the "invitation" for the rest of us is posted on a cork board in the break room.
I'm thinking card only on this one. |
Yikes!!! Emily Post would have a cow at that!
(Not the card only; the invitation posted on corkboard)
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 12:18 Post subject:
| kristin31 wrote: | | Erstwhile Lurker wrote: | Well, the "invitation" for the rest of us is posted on a cork board in the break room.
I'm thinking card only on this one. |
Yikes!!! Emily Post would have a cow at that!
(Not the card only; the invitation posted on corkboard) |
It's a very nice invitation. Velvety cover. A real seal. Four color maplets to the church and the downtown Hilton.
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 12:21 Post subject:
Maybe this is just me but I think that is major tacky. (The public invite to the church only business) My thoughts were always, if I can't afford or don't want to invite you to the whole thing, I don't expect you to come to the church part and/or bring a gift. How many others besides you are not going, and are they chipping in and buying a group gift? If so, I'd get in on that. If not, I'd just send a card. Are you going to the church?
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 12:32 Post subject:
Some people's kids, eh? Had 2 weddings at work here this summer. One was wonderful invites mailed to everyone and the other was the 'bulletin board' invite. Anyway, I gave a card & check to both, same $ amounts. I was surprised at the responses. The bulletin board bride was so grateful and couldn't thank me enough, whereas the personal invite bride hasn't said a thing, no thanks, nada. My policy is a card and a check, irregardless. When I got married, I had no concept of people giving money and we got so much, I like to think I'm keeping the universe balanced. 
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 12:36 Post subject:
| Erstwhile Lurker wrote: | | kristin31 wrote: | | Erstwhile Lurker wrote: | Well, the "invitation" for the rest of us is posted on a cork board in the break room.
I'm thinking card only on this one. |
Yikes!!! Emily Post would have a cow at that!
(Not the card only; the invitation posted on corkboard) |
It's a very nice invitation. Velvety cover. A real seal. Four color maplets to the church and the downtown Hilton. |
So you are or are not invited? If not invited I say a card would suffice.
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 12:46 Post subject:
| genie wrote: | | Are you going to the church? |
No. Nor to the hall after the dinner.
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 13:13 Post subject:
I'm thinking nice card too at this point. I still don't get stapling a nice invitation to a corkboard. Maybe I am too fixated on presentation.
At any rate, if I hadn't invited someone to my wedding (hypothetical here, peeps) and they sent a card I'd be very grateful for the nice thoughts/gesture. I'm sure that your co-worker will as well.
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 13:16 Post subject:
When we were planning our wedding we made the decision to not invite our co-workers (there were a couple straglers that made the cut). But we knew that it was more important to have family and friends around us than the people we work with.
I did receive some negative feedback, but I'm a cold, heartless sonofab.tch so I got over it. Quick.
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 13:17 Post subject:
No invite, no gift
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 13:22 Post subject:
| Cappy wrote: | | No invite, no gift |
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and when he asks you why you didn't show up or send a card/gift, you can enlighten him so he knows better the next time he gets married.
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 13:37 Post subject:
| keltic63 wrote: | | Cappy wrote: | | No invite, no gift |
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and when he asks you why you didn't show up or send a card/gift, you can enlighten him so he knows better the next time he gets married. |
He won't ask. But I'll probably snail mail a card.
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Posted: 12/17/02 - 14:31 Post subject:
I'm in the camp that says send a card and if there is a group gift, I'd contribute. I wouldn't initiate the gift buying myself.
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