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alyson98
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 Posted: 03/28/06 - 01:11 Post subject: Boyfriend with kids
So the new guy has 2 children.  I'm a bit nervous to meet thim since I don't have much experience with them other than when I go to Atlanta - and ya know how often that happens. Anyhow, the bf was telling his 8 year old son about me and asked if he would like to meet me. His response was
"Yes of course, but not this week I have a pretty busy schedule." 
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 07:10 Post subject:
 It will be a good experience for you.  How old is the other child? and how old are you again?
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kobyj
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 08:26 Post subject: Re: Boyfriend with kids
| alyson98 wrote: | So the new guy has 2 children. I'm a bit nervous to meet thim since I don't have much experience with them other than when I go to Atlanta - and ya know how often that happens. Anyhow, the bf was telling his 8 year old son about me and asked if he would like to meet me. His response was
"Yes of course, but not this week I have a pretty busy schedule."
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Along with JU's question, my question is how old is the guy? Aren't you 25?
Depending on how serious this is, you may want to talk with Brie and a few others here that have experience dating when children are involved.
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purple hayes
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 09:02 Post subject:
I would never date a man with children.
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 09:16 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | | I would never date a man with children. |
It's prolly a mutual thing I bet too. 
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keltic63
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 09:54 Post subject:
| purple hayes wrote: | | I would never date a man with children. |
I've made it work.
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brie k
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 12:55 Post subject:
Professionals say not to be hanging out with the kids until several months into the relationship. We didn't wait any time at all, and while all is fine here (after almost 7 months), I probably would have followed the above advice had I to do it over again. I'm very lucky in that my kids adore JM, Marie (JMs daughter) adores me, and everyone gets along super well, and that we're hoping our relationship is a forever thing.
The hardest thing may be that since you do not have kids of your own, wrapping your head around not being the BFs first priority. I have kids of my own and I sometimes struggle with this (even though I know I'm just being stupid and of course, my kids come first, so his should, too).
Good luck! There's pros and cons to this type of situation, but if it is serious and love is there, it is totally worth it!
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RangerG
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 13:25 Post subject:
People who do not date another because they have kids, are missing out on some wonderful people...and a possible soul mate.
Kids ask all the questions that we have forgoten how to ask....when we "grew up".. 
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 13:27 Post subject:
All I can say is good luck!!! 
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keltic63
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 13:28 Post subject:
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The hardest thing may be that since you do not have kids of your own, wrapping your head around not being the BFs first priority. I have kids of my own and I sometimes struggle with this (even though I know I'm just being stupid and of course, my kids come first, so his should, too).
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that is our agreement: kids come first. it's not always easy, but it is the most important rule in our relationship.
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alyson98
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 18:17 Post subject:
I'm 25, he's 28. Kids are almost 3 and 8.
The way him and I figure it is we might as well introduce me to the kids since we have to see how it goes. There is absolutely love in the relationship, I've never been so crazy over someone. He feels the same way. We want this all to work out! 
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Posted: 03/28/06 - 18:24 Post subject:
| alyson98 wrote: | I'm 25, he's 28. Kids are almost 3 and 8.
The way him and I figure it is we might as well introduce me to the kids since we have to see how it goes. There is absolutely love in the relationship, I've never been so crazy over someone. He feels the same way. We want this all to work out! |
Use common sense and care with the situation. I would avoid having the kids around during romantic moments as it may take awhile for the kidlets to get used to mom "making out" with somone other than dad... Not sure of your situation in that regard, just offering some wisdom from life...
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