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purple hayes
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 Posted: 03/16/03 - 19:40 Post subject: At what age would you allow your child... (version 2)
Assuming you are currently taking your children to church/synagog [sp?], at what age do you give them the choice of going to a different church that they like better or not going at all?
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AlaninTX
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Posted: 03/16/03 - 19:46 Post subject:
At whatever age you feel comfortable leaving them at home alone--about 13. As for another church--well--about the same age, I guess.
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brethelm
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Posted: 03/16/03 - 19:47 Post subject:
As long as they live in my household, they will go to my church. Fortunately, at least with Shelby - our oldest, she is very conscientious about going to church and even gives us a guilt trip if we miss (although I think at her age that might have more to do with getting to see her friends).
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keltic63
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Posted: 03/16/03 - 20:05 Post subject:
there's no room for discussion on this at our house. they go with us until such a time that they can make that decision, and I'm thinking that time will be when they are in college and making those kind of discoveries anyway. That said, there are several sundays in the course of the year that they miss for valid reasons, eventhough dad has to be there because it's his job! Missing because of a busy social weekend isn't valid. missing because of a band trip that got them home at 1am is acceptible.
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airehead
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Posted: 03/16/03 - 20:20 Post subject:
As long as he lives with me, and is a minor, he goes to our church. Although I have no problems with him going to church with friends so he can see what/how they worship. Then we can discuss it in relation to our beliefs.
Although, there is an addendum: my husband lived with his parents during college to save money and we met in his last couple of years. We broke off and went to a different church than his parents because we needed to get away from being so close ALL the time to his family.
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camelia bedelia
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 09:39 Post subject:
| AlaninTX wrote: | | At whatever age you feel comfortable leaving them at home alone--about 13. As for another church--well--about the same age, I guess. |
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If you give them the freedom to make their own choices they are most likely going to come back to where they started.
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 09:46 Post subject:
My house my church.
College though most likely
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 10:34 Post subject:
| airehead wrote: | | As long as he lives with me, and is a minor, he goes to our church. Although I have no problems with him going to church with friends so he can see what/how they worship. Then we can discuss it in relation to our beliefs. |
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Gogirlgo
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 10:42 Post subject:
My kids are too young for this now, but I feel like if they could provide some compelling reason to visit another house of worship and what time it was and where it was--in short, that they'd done some work on it--then I think it would be fine to go.
Most of us are the religions we are b/c our parents were. But I guess it's just possible that there are others out there that might even suit us better. As a parent, I wonder, who am I to decide what my children's relationship with the creator should be? Who's to say I'm right? I only know what's right for me.
So I'm not saying it can't happen. I'm just saying there needs to be some compelling substance behind it.
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AlaninTX
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 10:43 Post subject:
| camelia bedelia wrote: | | AlaninTX wrote: | | At whatever age you feel comfortable leaving them at home alone--about 13. As for another church--well--about the same age, I guess. |
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 10:47 Post subject:
| AlaninTX wrote: | | camelia bedelia wrote: | | AlaninTX wrote: | | At whatever age you feel comfortable leaving them at home alone--about 13. As for another church--well--about the same age, I guess. |
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 10:53 Post subject:
G3 how much more different unless one of the gogettes wanted to become a Mulsim or Sikh you already are raising them in two faiths.
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Gogirlgo
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 11:37 Post subject:
Get your turban on!
Yeah, it's true, they're already in two.
Sent one to her Jewish pre-school today with a "Wee Irish Lass" sticker on.
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Posted: 03/17/03 - 11:45 Post subject:
| rtpd113 wrote: | | My house my church. |
I see it that way too. And my church feels like an extension of my house. Being in my home, I'll always expect my kids to come to church with me. Since we attend services on Saturday, if they'd like to visit somewhere else on Sunday, that's okay. Most likely, I'd go with too. I have visited numerous churches in my lifetime. I think a person needs to understand their community and religion is a huge part of it.
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Posted: 03/18/03 - 12:59 Post subject:
From the multi-culti files: last night we were eating a traditional Irish dinner for St. Patty's Day while Goette Une read the Megillah, which is the story of Purim.
I love it when these holidays collide.
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